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Hello my name is tina and im 37 yrs old and i do have a surgery date of dec 3rd , and im gettin... IdK.... SECOND THOUGHTS!! its all theses (what if's) that are killing my desire for this procedure.. i never met anyone who has done it, i just know of people who has done it< i did go to a seminar met someone there and was in awwwww but no other time!! But i think i am gonna do it im just trying to make excuses not to.. you will see me on my page 'saying me" "what no i wasnt scared" lol!! but inside i was crying like a baby!! lol aNY NEW BaNdsters FoR dEc HIt Me Up!!! SOMEBODY MAKE ME LAUGH TELL ME A FUNNY JOKE....THANKS FOR TAKING YOUR TIME TO READ THIS!!

:rolleyes: TINA

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I know exactly how you feel - hang in there - you are not alone!

I live in Ontario Canada and last evening I had my first consult with the surgeon. Dr Cobourn is a wonderful man and inspires huge trust and confidence.

I need to know this - did anybody here burst into tears when they met their surgeon? I cannot explain what happened to me - I could not stop the flow of tears - I was not sobbing - but the tears were flowing down my cheeks! I felt like a fool - I hate to even think what the surgeon thought about them!! I am still trying to figure out - was it fear, uncertainity or relief?

Did anyone have such an emotional outburst? :smile:

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The very idea that there is something we can do to stop the yo-yo cycle is pretty overwhelming! I think any emotional response is completely normal. Did I cry? No. But I did leave the first visit with the doctor's office with this feeling of OMG...this is what I've prayed for.

Nerves right before surgery? Heck, we ALL had that. Lots of people start second-guessing themselves, too. Just take a deep breath! Read some success stories and realize that their beginnings are very similar to your own now!

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omg thanks......i really do read alot of post ops success stories and that does calm my nerves lol im trying ...i cant wait to see my before and afters lol...:smile:

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lol you did !! lol just the nerves i bet you laughed about it after..he was all shocked i bet lol

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hey tina

I am getting banded on the 7th, i have a few friends who had it done and they are doing great, It is awful waiting i know that but in the long run you will be better off, hey we are getting banded within 4 days of each other, we can compare notes, hope you do well I will say a little prayer for you girl , your new friend Larry

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Glad that made you laugh Tina!

I will have made my decision of "whether to Band or not to band" by the end of the week. If yes, My surgeon has dates available for mid January. Will keep you guys posted........ I can tell this forum is going to be a huge support.:smile:

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Tina we are around the same age, I of courtse love the name! and we are both being banded in December! Yeah for us.

I've gone thru the same thing these past 4 days but have come back around finally!

Did you join the social group under community? December 2009 - the Delights:smile2:

I'll be checking the group feverishly over the wekend looking for your first post op post!

cheers and hugs:lol:

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Its more than normal to be scared, nervous and have doubts about doing surgery. This is a major life altering event. Beings you took the initiative to talk to your doctor and go through the approval process, a big part of you is ready for this change. Always keep that in mind. The things that come after surgery, barring complications, are easier to deal with. Right now you are thinking to yourself the changes you will have to make in your eating habits, foods you will not be able to eat, etc. But after surgery you will find you don't miss them as much as you thought. I had surgery July 24th and I thought I would die if I didnt get my diet Dr. Pepper, or be able to eat at Subway, for example. You know, I'm human and I do miss those things, but I love seeing the numbers drop on the scale more! And I do have my diet Dr. Pepper, occassionally, I just have it flat now. (not so appealing but doable). I still have problems eating sandwiches, but its easier to eat bread at supper time when my band has loosened a little. But I love spinach tortillas so I eat those on the occassion I want a sandwich. I have found substitutes for the things I can't eat. In the end, when I look at my eating habits now, its healthier but I don't always make the best choices. However, I eat like a "skinny" person, I have the occassional treat, but on a much smaller scale now. I still berate myself for making a bad choice, but its not nearly as often as before the surgery. That all being said, I still deal with head hungry and the desire to eat when I am not hungry. Surgery did nothing to cure that, as I am sure you have seen on here before. I try to make better food choices, avoid slidder foods, and if I choose to eat something and I am not hungry, the band will let me know I just made a stupid choice! It hurts, feels like I am swallowing knives type of hurt. Yup, I still have that head hunger but a few times of eating feeling that painful, I sure learned to think twice, lol!

My holy crap moment came when I went in for my first fill. I am scared to death of needles. Yes, I knew this surgery involved needles, but I didnt want to do by-pass. So I am laying there on the table and doc is about to give me the numbing meds and I just started to bawl, like almost having a nervous breakdown. Oh, I scared that woman to death!! She hadnt even touched me and I was crying. It wasnt from pain or being scared. It was, because at that moment, I fully realized I ate myself that fat! That in order to lose all this weight, I had to go through needles in my stomache. I felt like the worlds biggest idiot, how could I have done this to myself, etc. How I didnt get those feelings when I was having surgery is beyond me. But yanno, I deserved that breakdown and I needed it. Because needles or not, I was gonna lose this weight finally, forever!! I've lost almost 60 lbs now. Not once have I regretted it.

And no, the fills are easy. Nice little numbing shot and I feel nothing else. When the numbness is gone, its a little sore and a little bruised. My port happens to be right at my waist, so I get to spend the rest of the day in jammy pants so I can keep the waist band off of the sore area. Good to go!

I've written a book and I hope somewhere in all that I have said, I've said something to help you! Good luck and best weight loss to you!

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CantB2Noty: Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. It has a lot of inspiration for us to draw on. I have my surgey date now - Jan 13 - and I am all excited.

I hope to hang in there and will come back to share my experiences.

:sad: Good luck to all of us!

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Honestly i just had my surgery im post op 1 day only and things are ok cant feel nothing but the port side a litle achy, i pray to god that he heals all my wounds my reasons reason for doing this were for my myself and my grandkids.......im ok now i was balling the night b4 just thinking and thinking and not knowing what to expect....thank for your comment im here anytime i really do mean anytime with any questions andworries ok remmeber im not your nurse and im not your doctor im a real person who has really done it so thats even better ok

tina

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hey tina

I am glad your doing good, i was happy to hear that. I am going in monday at 5,45 a.m wow nice early start i want it over,,, we will do great i am doing it for myself ,so i cam be there for for grand kids, i am in pain now because they stopped my ibuprofen , i was on 800 mg 3 times a day my knees are killing me....i will get through it thoughthanks larry

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