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Repeat after me, "I forgive myself and will go back to what I am suppose to eat."

The week will go by and then you can start on regular meals. However, since you were so easily tempted, you really need to evaluate WHY you caved in so easily, so that you can avoid future problems.

I know you can do this! So many people before us have done it and we can too. Take care of yourself, follow the guidelines, make good choices, and the first thing you know, the guys will be drooling!

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Mango- Maybe you dont want someone who doesnt love you regaurdless! I know that sounds silly but it helps to think that! AND think that in a few months when he is salivating over you....then YOU can decide if he is as good as all the other men after you :blush: How many weeks are you post op that you ate the pizza...... I am STARVING and so far havent slipped bc Im scared to mess up the band but it is ssssooo hard. Did the pizza go down OK or make you feel bad?

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Thank you all for the words of wisdom and motivation. It really is strange how some people go on mushies right away and some of us gotta wait 2 weeks. I haven't had a meal in 4 & 1/2 weeks I guess 1 more week shouldn't be a big deal.

Yes it is strange,I am due for surgery on the 15th and I am on a low carb diet for the two weeks before, and mushies straight after:confused:

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Mango- Maybe you dont want someone who doesnt love you regaurdless! I know that sounds silly but it helps to think that! AND think that in a few months when he is salivating over you....then YOU can decide if he is as good as all the other men after you :blush: How many weeks are you post op that you ate the pizza...... I am STARVING and so far havent slipped bc Im scared to mess up the band but it is ssssooo hard. Did the pizza go down OK or make you feel bad?

Well I hadn't slipped up either unless you count letting a handful of small plain M&M's melt in my mouth. My family would've known something was up if I hadn't ate the pizza. I mostly just ate the cheese and toppins but did eat some of the bread. No problems - thank the Good Lord! I chewed like crazy to make it "mushy" and ease my conscience.

As for the guy I've crushed on - does anyone feel like your dating life is at a standstill b/c you want to lose weight before meeting folks of the opposite sex? Not to hijack this thread - sorry. It's really ridiculous b/c I'm the same person underneath the extra 80 pounds.

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I hear ya about the pizza. Im sure I will be stuck in some situations like that when I get back to school and ppl are like why arent you eating. BC Im not telling ANYONE but mom dad and sister!

I feel the same about dating too. I just want to work on getting skinny then think about a man. BC Im not excatly looking to explain on a date why I can only have a smoothie haha!

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I was banded a week ago. I've been eating/drinking what I can tolerate. I just love that chewing a few bites of meat is called a "slip-up", usually for me (prior to my surg last week) a "slip-up" involved a Big Mac, and a corner piece of birthday cake! LOL!

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Even if you cheat alittle my two cents is you will still continue to lose weight because your portion sizes are now limited. You will not be ingesting the same caloric intake as before so u will naturally lose weight. If you feel bad about yourself for "cheating" just make a corrective action immediately and be "good" again I punish myself by making myself do the treadmill in my home for a mile if I have a "bad" day. Best of luck with your journeys

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This is so true NJBouncer. I could easily eat 4-6 slices in a sitting and then the rest of the pizza w/in the hour. I think the more serious issue isn't so much your conscience but band slippage.

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Mango fish how did you feel after eating the pizza? Were you uncomfortable or did you feel ok? And its that guys lost don't beat yourself up.

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That's true NJBOUNCER....I'm just afraid of slippage during this heling stage....its sooooo hard :thumbup:

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My post-op instructions (banded 9/3) are on the conservative side - two weeks on Clear Liquids and I'm wondering if there's a creative way to get through this stage. Think I'll try flavored diet ice teas and every flavor of diet Jello available. I thought about making my own fat-free chicken broth this weekend so I could control the sodium and make it taste better than ready made. Would appreciate any ideas.

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Renee I drank crystal Light like it was going out of style in fact i still do. Lemonade and pink lemonade are my favorite. I also ate vegetable Soup small portion maybe 2/3 cup mostly drank the broth ate alittle bit of the actual soup. I was kept on the clear liquid diet for only 5 days and then I was upgraded to the next stage.

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Slippage?? my doctor told me the chances of slippage are very low due to the new surgical protocols of stitching the band to the upper folds of the skin it practically eliminates the chances of slippage. I wouldn't worry too much if this is how your procedure was performed.

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Good Stats! This board puts the fear of God in you about band slippage. To the OP: I was banded on August 21. When I ate the pizza I chewed it up so much it became mushy & had no problem. During the clear liquid stage I added Protein drinks & ensure drinks b/c I felt like I was dying: bed-ridden, no energy, felt like I was starving!

Thank guys for the kind words. I really liked this guy but apparently it doesn't matter if I'm intelligent & nice. It just matters if your a size 2. Sigh. :thumbup:

BTW, have you guys tried Welch's 10 calorie Black Cherry juice?? AWESOME!!!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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