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I will be banded on 10/28 and want to be excited, but do not have the support of my family. My husband is supportive so that helps. I am starting to question my decision now, and feeling a little depressed.

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You wouldn't be human if you didn't question these kinds of life altering decisions. But you are smart woman and make the right decision for you and your family, I am sure!!

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Don't be depressed, be informed!! The more you know, the more you will feel confident about your decision, no matter what others think! What questions do you have? What worries you? I'll tell you anything you want to know...we all will here! ((hugs)) and welcome to LBT!!

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Hi msfrosh! Congratulations on setting the date for your surgery! I will be banded on Monday 10/10. The closer it gets, the more excited/anxious I get!

How wonderful that your husband is supporting you in this journey! Lean on him, talk-talk-talk to him about your concerns and feelings. I'm sorry that the rest of your family is not coming around to seeing your side of this great tool.... is it because they don't understand the way it will improve your life/health? Do they realize it is not as dangerous as the bypass?

I'm divorced, and I have to say that if it was not for my Mom (and this wonderful group at LBT!) I'm not sure if I would be as excited to go thru with this procedure. I've done 7 months of research, been to several seminars - and took my Mom with me too! She's my rock! I have to say, I was cautious to explain this to her in the beginning.. she's a retired dietician and I was not entirely sure she wouldn't tell me to just diet and excercise. But, she's seen my struggle with weight over the years. We both know the success of the band will depend on how well I chose to work with it.

I've decided not to tell any of my close friends yet, or anyone at work either. I want to do this at my pace, and not have others scrutinizing my behavior!

I hope you realize that the wonderful friends on this board are just like brothers & sisters... adopt us and we'll be the supportive family you need during this journey.

ALL THE BEST,

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Hi msfrosh, I too am to be banded soon and have little support. My BF is the only one who knows and he's not too excited about it. Use this forum for your support or you can e-mail me privately and we'll support each other. Good luck and congrats for your decision to seek a better life.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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