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i know what you mean, my boyfriend is completely supportive, but my girlfriends dont understand why i can't just exercise more... i have a gym membership and go about 4 times a week, it makes me feel good, but i have been in a stalemate, stuck at 275lbs for years... no matter what i do, i can't seem to lose anything and though i eat too much on occasion, 5 days a week i eat really healthy. i have decided to be banded but my work schedule conflicts with informational session times and I can't just pick a doctor out of the yellow pages can i?

i digress...

you know yourself better than anyone else. if you want this to work for you, then my personal feeling is that you can. i've watched my co-worker go from a chunky monkey like me to a beautiful and thin beach babe.

i want that and know i can do it. i have faith in you.

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i too have the same story as you and panda and many others here. my husband finaly came around to accepting i was doing this (the first few months i didn't tell him about my inquiries and consult), and when i lost 10 pounds during my 10-day preop, i got alot of "if you can lose weight now why do you need the surgery?". my daughters brought me to surgery yesterday, not my husband.... like i said "accepting", but i still ca't say supportive. my closest friends too are positive for my sake, trying to be spportive, but they all would "never do it".

my support is my dad, daughters and this site... and my absolute biggest supporter is ME!!! i did it for me and to be a healthier more participating parent in the lives of my 4 kids.

do it for YOU, your success is for YOU. the rest, your husband included, will see your success and be proud of you for it in the end i'm sure :rolleyes:

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:rolleyes2:Dear Frustrated,

I am going to get my lapband in Nov. late Nov. I NEED to get my health back, and my blood pressure down. At this

point for me, I will feel better, look better, and not worry about having the strokes my mother had. I don't know how

it will feel to eat so differently, and I will need support , but I have a chance at a new me. Remember negitive thoughts, are just that and we don't need them. DO this for YOU, not

anyone else, you are worth this! You are the one that will change, and maybe others will do the same after they see you and feel your Joy. We should pray for one another.:thumbdown:

Life style change Yes, but change is good and much needed.

Love You. Keep your chin up, and know what YOU want.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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