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Hello, my name is Tammy, and my surgery date is March 24. I have several friends who have gone through this, but I'm still scared. I have never had surgery of any kind. I've never even been in the hospital except for x-rays and other tests.

I tried so many other methods of losing weight, and they worked for a little while, then nothing. I made the decision to have lap-band surgery after much research and soul searching.

I'm ready to begin this journey. I know it won't be easy, but I'm dedicated to doing this the right way. I even made an appt with a counselor to work on other issues, and I've never been to a therapist except for the psychological evaluation for surgery.

I would appreciate any advice, words of encouragement, and prayers anyone can give me. Thanks!

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im about 3 weeks post op and i've lost 18 pounds already. and like you i was never really sick or had any major health problems before. and trust me i was terrified. but i feel fine i went back to work after 2 weeks. now im not gonna lie and say its not gonna hurt i was pretty miserable for a few days. but after you start moving you back to yourself fairly quickly. the good thing is you sound to be in pretty good health already and thats gonna help you heal faster. good luck to you and i will definitely say a prayer for your safe surgery and speedy recovery:thumbup:

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Hi Tammy

I had exactly the same fears - as probably did everyone on this board. The way I dealt with it all was to put everything into context. Hopefully this will help: Morbid Morbidity - Lap Band Surgery and Lap Band Discussion Forum

The fact that you are catering for the mental issues ahead as well as the natural fears is excellent news! On top of that - you are a woman and not a whingeing man - so the post-op pain will no doubt be a breeze too!

All the best

Ben

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don't be scared just be EXCITED! Good luck to you!

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hello i am very scared too but with prayer and support it will be ok. The problem with me is i am a punk when it comes to pain , when i had my tubes tied and my three kids i felt like i was going to die and i know this is going to be painful so i am scared . My family members and friends had there kids like it wasnt nothing and my sister did a cross word puzzle while in labor . me nope so i am praying for quick recorvery

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Hi Tammy!

I feel exactly the same way. With any luck, I will have my surgery before the end of May. I'm not so worried about pain. Complications are my biggest concern. Especially since I am self pay and insurance won't touch anything having to do with bariatric surgery. I've got a few more questions to ask of the surgeon, but I'm hoping it will all come together neatly.

I've decided to think positively and assume that it will all be okay. I know the risks (just as I'm sure you do) and we have a plan in case those complications happen. One day at a time...

K:smile2:

P.S. good luck on your surgery!!!

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Hi Tammy! I was in the same boat you're in when I went into the hospital. I've never broken anything, or even been to the hospital before, so it was a big scary world. My experience, while not super easy (we are getting cut, after all!), was so much better than I was afraid it would be. I spent one night in the hospital and was out by noon the next day. The nurses and doctors were all incredibly supportive and positive and did everything but bring their pom poms to cheer me on. It was pretty sweet.

And if your doctor is anything like mine was, s/he'll give you really good drugs to take home with you. :ohmy:

Wishing you the best of luck!

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Hi,

I have been thinking about Lap Band surgery for the last year. A dear friend had the surgery and loves her results.

I am in the beginning steps. I am self-pay and am nervous about the large financial obligation but I've spent more money in weightloss products over the last 9 years.

I've never had a surgery or incision a day in my life. I'm am freaking out b/c my boyfriend doesn't seem to support me at all. Not sure if its insecurity or lack of knowledge about the process but its troubling nonetheless.

If anyone can give me an idea of what to expect the first week, that would be great.

Thanks.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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