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I am afraid of failure. I'm afraid that with my PCOS and insulin resistance, I won't lose very much weight. I'm afraid it will all come back, plus more, like it always has in the past. I'm afraid of losing too much hair! (That's number one for me). But I got banded yesterday and I think it will be worth it. I feel like I've been kicked by a horse, though.

Three weeks of Soup, Jell-O, and yogurt, here I come.

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So far, my journey with the insurance company has been so easy, it is scary. I have not had the waiting times, the 6 month diets, the hoops to jump through....so, my fear is that I am this close, and something will go wrong and they won't approve me.

Even though I talked to one of the insurance coordinators at my Ins. Co last week and she said "It looks like all we need is certification from your surgeon, and you should be good to go." I still will be so relieved when I get the approval!

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I fear loose skin. I worry that at 40 my skin won't bounce back like it did when I was younger. I don't want to wear long sleeves or pants forever. I have super large calves and thighs, the thought flapping skin while walking scares me. There is not a chance of having plastic surgery without winning boat loads of money.

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I am dreading to wake up to a lot of pain. But looking forward to getting it done also.

I have a low tolerance to pain, and it scares me to think about it . lol

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My biggest fear too... was failure and still is.. we put time and effort into this and it doesn't always succeed. Im taking each day as it comes and as long as im losing and not putting on.. its a success!

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Failure. Keeping my head up and eye on the prize!

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I'm scareed of a lot of the things that the rest of you have already pointed out--I'm afraid of all the loose skin after I lose the weight, I'm afraid of =complications down the line, I'm afraid of failure--but I'm also afraid of success. I just actually wrote a long blog about it. See, I didn't get to be this big for no reason. Being fat is a saftey net for me. I'm afraid of losing all the weight and being skinny and realizing that nothing has changed. I'm afraid of learning that the fat was just the symptom and not the problem. Because if that's the case, then what?

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I am afraid of doing all the work and putting the weight back on -AGAIN! I get so mad at myself when I eat unhealthy and make poor choices. I mean good grief, I had to have WLS for goodness sake.

You know what I am afraid of more - being an old fat lady that has to ride around the wal-mart in a buggy and I was rapidly headed there. My last trip to Disney I had to ride in a buggy becasue that much walking would have killed my legs and back.

So, a day at a time - a fill at a time. Each step is a journey for me and this time I can say it is one I have not take yet becasue this band should help.

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Glad too hear that there is other people in their 50's doing this. A lot of people said that I am too old. I am 56 years old and tired of being over weight. So why can't I do it right.

Cant wait to get my surgery. Yippey

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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