Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

so I am going to have surgery the second week in january and I am scared to death. What if this doesnt work either? I know that its not a cure tht its just a tool that is supposed to help me but if its up to me to make the right choices that is what I am scare about. The choces that I make have gotten me where I am now. I am scared that my relationship with food is too strong, I am scared of being thin, I keep telling myself that having the surgery is weak and I should be able to do it on my own. Only time and time again I have tried and failed. Please tell me that someone else out there has felt this way.:thumbup:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Snappi,

I am going through the exact same emotions, I am being banded on the 3rd Dec. I have not been able to stop eating, its like a farewell to food eating. I have been reading these boards of months now and I am convinced that I am making the right decision. One minute I am all positive and then go and scare myself by watching the operation itself and reading all the problems people are having with their bands. So no, you are not alone

Ash

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I think because we have been on and failed every diet we have been on that the unknown of another tool is making us feel we may fail again. I don't even want to tell people that I am doing this because what if I fail again? When I read stories of people that have not lost or watch them on youtube I wonder will that be me too, will I over eat since I eat now when I'm full or not hungry? Will I stretch out my pouch and have my co-workers say they told me so that it could happen? Well, now I just worried myself even more.

I have walked into Weight Watcher's so many times with my head high saying to myself, this is it, this time I am going to lose the weight and keep it off, my freinds and family support me and then I fail, I am so tired of failing.

We have to go into this without our old habits, fears and thoughts of failure. I'm sure we'll have moments of weekness, we will have bad weeks or even a bad month, however, this is the best tool we can ask for so I am going in this last time with my head held high and with a possitive attitude again and I AM GOING TO LOSE THIS WEIGHT, we all are, we have a great site here to come to when we are having a problem or a question, we have friends here we can trust, we have each other and I know I am going to finally and forever lose my unwanted weight, I'm finally going to be healthy. I just can't go into this scared, I can't be scared anymore, I just want to keep the excitement!!:D

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×