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I know in my head, logically i have no reason to be frustrated. im off to a good start indeed. but the last month has been such a battle for me. i posted previous about not losing for a week and a half, then i lost some, then the same thing. i lost three pounds and now nothing. this week it showing i gained a pound. im walking on my treadmill for 20 min i know not a long time but i have nerve damage in my legs, but i do faster, slower running intervals to try and mix things up.. next week im cleared to start lifting weights. I am just so frustrated because its the excitement of getting skinnier and being more healthy and im still at such an unhealthy weight and im so tired of being fat. I feel like im going to meet my goals and when i go to christma this year. no one is going to really tell my weight loss at all. and i was so excited about that. i wanted to get close to 200 by then but i dont think its gonna happen. I go in for my first fill next wednesday so im hoping that will change things. This morning i was crying and i know im being so illogical about the whole thing I know its a slow process its just such a let down to lose so quick and then suddenly have that stop. last weekend i did have a couple hiccups i know could be slowing me down too and my body could be adjusting from that. such as i had a taco from taco bell. a little bit of movie popcorn.. and sat night went out with the girls and have some wine.

I guess my mindset of treating myself was all an illusion and i dont know if it has anything to do with it at all because im been so damn good. anyway i just needed to vent because this website is my support. im so scared the band has stopped working. i think that is my biggest fear. hey tho one thing i was proud of. is when i was exercising yesterday i was able to jog a little bit. i can tell im getting into better shape which is always a good thing right? that is my main gail so there is a positive. :)

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I seen your thread and I understand how you feel. I was you 2 years ago. We actually have almost the same starting weight and goal as each other. I was one of the slow losers. I even stopped coming to this website cuz i was so frustrated at how everyone was speeding past me. Well, here is the benifit that you may not have considered. I have NO extra skin anywhere. I don't need a Tummy Tuck, arms done, hip or thighs, butt, or Lipo. EVERYTHING is exactly were it should be. Well, I can't lie, my chest will never be the same, nothing a good bra can't fix though. Some of the fast losers are still trying to get rid of the last few pounds just as I am. It all seems to even out by the time you are 2 years out. I know that it sounds like a long time and truthfully sometimes it feels like it, but it is well worth it to me. Stick with what you know you need to do (exercise & eating right) and your body will respond. YOU CAN DO IT! It sounds like you can tell by the amount of exercise you can now do that your body is responding. BE PROUD. We like to have everyone notice our work and be able to see it on our body, it will come. Remember even if it takes 2 yrs. you have a lifetime after that to be told how FABULOUS you look. And I am confident you will look FABULOUS! GOOD LUCK!

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i feel the EXACT same way, i guess its easy for me to tell you, to hang in there the weight will come off, but its hard for me to take my own advice...

i have accepted the fact that i'm not losing weight as fast as most, and some time for 2 weeks straight i don't lose anything, and some times i gain!!! but then i did the math today and since my surgery it looks like i've lost about 3 lbs a week...and thats not bad

i too wanted to be closer to 200 by xmas, it is just very frustrating! i do exercise and i KNOW i eat waaay less than i use to, i guess i just have to learn to be patient

so good luck to us both!

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