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So i keep thinking about the surgery going on.. and if i should get it or not. recently at work they send out a company wide information packet about how the whole hotel is doing. and on guest that i recently delt with call me the "heavy set girl." To everyone surprise that bothered me and made me cry. i believe my supervisor was surprised when he noticed that the unifocus made me upset. Reading what that woman had to say about the "heavy set girl" made me want to consider the surgery more and more. i'm still quiet uncomfortable about the whole situation. and trying to decide if i should actually go through with it. my boyfriend is the main reason that i wouldn't get it done. i would want him behind me on getting the surgery done and he always says "babe your fine the way you are. Dont let people put you down." i need help can some one please give me some advice on what i should do

-Girl who needs help!:biggrin:

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You need to do this surgery for ONLY yourself. If you decided to go through with it or not, it should be for yourself and no one else. I have been the "heavy set girl" my whole adult life and know how it feels to be referred to that way. I also have those people in my life who say, you're just fine the way you are. You need to look at your reasons for wanting to do the surgery, then make a decision and go with it. Hang in there!

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So i keep thinking about the surgery going on.. and if i should get it or not. recently at work they send out a company wide information packet about how the whole hotel is doing. and on guest that i recently delt with call me the "heavy set girl." To everyone surprise that bothered me and made me cry. i believe my supervisor was surprised when he noticed that the unifocus made me upset. Reading what that woman had to say about the "heavy set girl" made me want to consider the surgery more and more. i'm still quiet uncomfortable about the whole situation. and trying to decide if i should actually go through with it. my boyfriend is the main reason that i wouldn't get it done. i would want him behind me on getting the surgery done and he always says "babe your fine the way you are. Dont let people put you down." i need help can some one please give me some advice on what i should do

-Girl who needs help!:biggrin:

my advise to you is ....bottom line , do what is right for YOU. you are the only one who knows how you feel and how it feels to deal with being overweight. don't let anyone make this decision for you.this is a forever life change that will make you so much happier and be able to strut your stuff in front of those people who say not so nice things. i know your boyfriend is important to you but not to sound mean , men come and go in our lives and you will always be you no matter what so do this for you if that is what you feel is right. if he loves you for you then he should be fine no matter what you look like big or small. good luck !!!!

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Girl: You don't know what your missing out on. I was just like you before my surgery in May. I did it and it was the best thing I have ever done for myself. Not for anyone else. I have lost 28lbs and feel like a different person already. The thing I have found that I like the most is, the control that it gives me over my eating habits. It makes me pay attention to what I put in my mouth. I was so out of control. I have such a different thinking process about ME. Do it for yourself. You wont be dissappointed. Its no quick fix, but it changes your life for the better. Dont worry, just make the move to better health. Good Luck.

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So i keep thinking about the surgery going on.. and if i should get it or not. recently at work they send out a company wide information packet about how the whole hotel is doing. and on guest that i recently delt with call me the "heavy set girl." To everyone surprise that bothered me and made me cry. i believe my supervisor was surprised when he noticed that the unifocus made me upset. Reading what that woman had to say about the "heavy set girl" made me want to consider the surgery more and more. i'm still quiet uncomfortable about the whole situation. and trying to decide if i should actually go through with it. my boyfriend is the main reason that i wouldn't get it done. i would want him behind me on getting the surgery done and he always says "babe your fine the way you are. Dont let people put you down." i need help can some one please give me some advice on what i should do

-Girl who needs help!:biggrin:

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Mallerygro: Whatever someone calls you has no bearing on what you really are. It's just that person's unimaginative description. Like others here have said, you have to get the surgery for yourself, not whether someone else does or doesn't want it. It's your health. Maybe you're not quite ready to make the decision yet. Do as much research as you can. Good luck to you! :tongue_smilie:

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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