Set myself some mini goals and rewards!

[lachamb40 0]

Good Morning, when I made this decision, I was 39 and I knew I was going into my 40's and I promised myself to enjoy my 40's, because it is like the new 20's. I did what I need to do as a mom when the children were little, now that I have a 17 and 15 year olds, I am ready to do for me. I will always be mom, but I can now focus more on me and where I need to be in life, I am determained to do that, in a healthy way. It has not been easy, but nothing ever is. I am venting right now because of some harsh things I heard/over heard a friend said to another friend. "I don't need the procedure, because I can't do it, I don't go through with things, I am weak. Maybe at one time I was, but for the past few years, I started to change. I am not married, I am an only child and for a while I wanted to have lots of friends. Granted I admit I do get lonely, but I woke up in my late 30's and realize I don't need to surrond myself with them. I am surrounded with negative people, no one ever wants to do anything, but sit around eat, have man problems, and complain and talk about everyone else. I got so fed up with it I started moving away from it. I have always like going and doing things, but my friends are so miserable that I got caught up in it. For them it is comforting, for me it is depressing, and overwhelming mentally. We are all heavy women. My friends that don't have a life, I can suggest, they find excuse after excuse why they can't do things. I can say let us have some fun and go to Penn's Landing and walk around, they have a problem with that. They stay at home for 2-3 weeks on vacation and not go no where, I mean no where, for them that is vacation. I travel alone, I started last year and I enjoy it. I hope to start traveling with some folks soon as I change my life style. I am a single mom and I do things with the kids when I have my time for me I take it now. Not stay home and vacation in front of the tv with Oprah, Jerry Springer and Lifetime, I go out. For my birthday I want to Travel to Jamaica for my birthday in February and Celebrate my 40th Birthday, Yes I am 40 now, but I didn't get the opportunity to Celebrate it, so I want to be on the beach and celebrate with a bathing suit on. Laying on the beach or in the pool.

I am just looking for the next blessed 10 years fat free!!! I am going to do it!!!!!! We all are going to do it. We will make this work for us and no one else. I say when the door closes I am leaving it close walk away from the past and look forward to the future. My friends were great but I am growing in a different direction, I want to live, live life to the fullest, with acceptance or not, I am going to live life. I have no desire to sit around and feel sorry for myself, keep it moving!!!! SO WE ARE GOING TO MAKE IT WORK and ENJOY LIFE, AND LOOK FABULOUS, AND FIERCE!!!! Enjoy the rest of your day and I will see you all soon!!!!

[ShrinkyDink 0]

I've already rewarded myself with an awesome new handbag for losing my first 20 pounds!

I'm going to try to hold off buying new clothes besides a necessary thing or two through the winter, and by spring I hope to be under 200 and will be going on a major shopping spree!

When I hit my 150, I'm going to splurge on myself and get laser vision correction surgery. I've put it off forever because of the cost, I'll be so glad to get rid of my glasses, as it is now I can't walk across the room without them, so that will be a truly new me!

[Roheryn 0]

Hey Lauralee, I've had Laser eye correction and it is the best thing I have done for myself!! (well until this band I hope :thumbup: ) It is so great to be able to not have to wear glasses, not have to constantly wipe them clean or dry them if it rains or clear them when they get steamy.