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Sorry Tyler,

I only have life insurance through my employer, and since it is a small policy, I have never had to answer any questions, so I know very little about it. I am also single with no dependants, so I have never really worried about insurance.

Maybe you should consider talking to an insurance broker? They can do the leg work for you and as far as I know, they don't charge anything as they get their commissions from the insurance companies.

I know it can be very discouraging to have your weight held against you by every side you turn to (health, insurance, employment - you name it). You are doing the best you can for both you and your family, so you just have to keep at it.

I always thought I got along just fine in life, even being super obese, as people generally have treated me very well. I sure am noticing a difference now. I do have to say that it may not be people treating me differently though - I think I am treating myself differently. I have way more confidence, I am much fitter and healthier and I think it somehow reflects in the "vibes" I give off.

I know you are really searching out your options now. Take a deep breathe and have some patience. I know it is hard - when you make the decision to make a change, you want it to happen yesterday already. Been there, done that. You need to take the time to reflect on what you need to do and systematically approach what needs to happen to reach those goals. What is doable and how. I find it very helpful to focus on what I can do, versus what I can't, which can be discouraging and depressing.

I think it is a real skill to reframe the negatives that can come with this journey into positives :redface:.

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Hi JJsmiles, thanks for the good advice. I've heard some of it before, but its helping to hear it again.

I'm taking my wife out for dinner and a movie tonight. I think this will help.

Gotto run.

Regards

Tyler

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Hey Tyler...I was just banded on June 12th by Dr Debru in Calgary at the Peter Lougheed hospital...he was wonderful...answered all my questions, made me feel like I was his only patient in the world. I have met Dr Des Coteaux as well, he did one of my pre op exams, and he is wonderful as well...so kind and warm. I am doing very well since my surgery and for the first time in years and years I feel hope...it is funny, as I am writing this I just came up with the word hope as how to best discribe how I am feeling and it is pretty darn powerful...I am actually planning things for the next few months that involve physical activity and me not just sitting back and letting others live for me...I wish you all the best of luck in the future and suggest you call Dr Debru's office and talk to Kelly his receptionist (she is wonderful) and I am sure will be able to answer some of your questions for you. :ohmy:

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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