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Lori, I love, love, love, your pics of your trip.......how awesome to walk the places Jesus walked. And you look fabulous!

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Apples - writing always helps me to express my feelings. We are all here, feel free to write.

When my mother passed away it was like an emotional toilet overflowed. Does that express how you are feeling??? It was awful. A hugh mental cleanup was necessary and that takes time.

Know that others are sending positive energy your way.

Joyce

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Janet...no shopping. Actually just at home today muddling through life. Don't mean to be a "Debbie Downer" but really struggling. Too many emotions to deal with and just plain pissed off about too many things, sad and just plain depressed. And, the fact that I have not slept in two nights does not help with keeping my emotional balance in tact.

Again...to everyone of you. Thanks for the comfort and support.

Girl, you keep us all going on our journeys. You take as many Debbie Downer days as your need. That is all the part of grieving. Vent too......whatever helps you......we are here for you. My in-laws died within two months of each other. We had a hard time grieving because we were caregiving or planning funerals. It has been five years and now we don't speak to DH's sister and DH's brother has just started speaking to us. There is too much stuff that has gone on in five years to explain. Most of it is due to unresolved conflicts his parent's caused. Hopefully, one day we will have peace in the family again.

I wish I could fix your pain. I will being praying for you. HUGS and Lots of LOVE! arlene

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Hi gang, I got behind again and it takes a while to catch back up... Just had a busy day and evening yesterday with Lenten services and all.... and then Mimi came at 6:30 am today.... I was so tired that I sat on the couch with her and dozed while she watched her Little Bear... She would smack me everytime it was over so I could put on a new one..... I wasn't really sleeping, just resting I guess.... I got up to go to the bathroom and came back to her tipped over on the couch asleep..... They look like such angels when sleeping!!!! Then it was time for my show (Young and the Restless) so I sat and watched that... finally time to check in here.....

Melissa, sorry you still are having vehicle problems.. They are such a nuisance.. And about your plateau... I've been doing that for months... It's hard to break, but it can be done... If feel like I'm on the verge of something now... We'll see...

Phyll, you know I can sure relate about the pain and bringing one to crying... It's just plain awfull..... My sympathies.. Hope it is better soon.... WTG on the size 16..... That's fabulous

Cheri, how's everything today...??? I hope that saurkraut has left your system to do no more damage.... More problems at work makes for stress.... Take it easy..

Janet, that boss had a lot of nerve asking you to work Friday... They can't have it both ways!!! good for you...

Eva, loved the cards... My artistic talents don't go in that direction at all.... How do you get the ideas?? The massages are okay, but don't know if I think they are helping at all.... Hope your back is better soon, too....

Shan, WTG on your bootcamp, too.... It's great what a few pounds can do to our determination...

Arlene, hope all your cleaning works and you don't get sick... And hugs to your daughter during this pregnancy.. Hope she won't have to have bed rest....

Lori, the pictures are wonderful... DH is a doll and you look so happy together. And you look fabulous... Going to make a beautiful mother of the bride in a few days....

Laura, congrats on getting into new pants.... I'm pulling for you to get back into your exercise plan.. Wish I could.... I don't even do what I can do lately... No excuses, just don't even think of it most days....

Apples, take care of yourself.... we love you.....

Well, time to do something constructive around the house here... Don't know what yet.... There are a few dishes to wash and supper to plan... Nothing special I guess..... Take care all and have a great day...

YYTL.......... Julie

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Apples - writing always helps me to express my feelings. We are all here, feel free to write.

When my mother passed away it was like an emotional toilet overflowed. Does that express how you are feeling??? It was awful. A hugh mental cleanup was necessary and that takes time.

Know that others are sending positive energy your way.

Joyce

Thanks, Joyce...but, be careful what you ask for with me writing my feelings. You girls don't even want to hear what I am feeling right now. Very long and complicated story. All I can say is that I am at peace with my life and what I have done with it and the person that I am and how I treat others. That's what life is, right???? Oh my gosh...I just figured out the meaning of life. Be right back...gonna get it a patent....

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Girl, you keep us all going on our journeys. You take as many Debbie Downer days as your need. That is all the part of grieving. Vent too......whatever helps you......we are here for you. My in-laws died within two months of each other. We had a hard time grieving because we were caregiving or planning funerals. It has been five years and now we don't speak to DH's sister and DH's brother has just started speaking to us. There is too much stuff that has gone on in five years to explain. Most of it is due to unresolved conflicts his parent's caused. Hopefully, one day we will have peace in the family again.

I wish I could fix your pain. I will being praying for you. HUGS and Lots of LOVE! arlene

Thanks, Arlene for the kind words. Funny how families sometimes get ripped apart after the death of parents. A little info...the ripping happened 15 yrs ago with mine. Out of respect for the dead and not wanting drama caused at my dad's funeral, I am sitting here as the funeral is taking place. Same routine as when my mother passed away 4 yrs ago. I don't want to send the wrong message to all of you. Nope, not a cold-hearted "B" that does not attend her parent's funeral. Just a smart girl that knows what would take place if I were there.

I am left to deal with this in my own way. Not an ideal situation but to know me is to understand that I will take it all as it comes my way, feel it and get on with life. Thanks for caring

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Apples, you are welcome and you are loved!!!! Thank you for being such a wonderful lady... I'm so proud to have you for my friend.... Julie

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Thanks, Arlene for the kind words. Funny how families sometimes get ripped apart after the death of parents. A little info...the ripping happened 15 yrs ago with mine. Out of respect for the dead and not wanting drama caused at my dad's funeral, I am sitting here as the funeral is taking place. Same routine as when my mother passed away 4 yrs ago. I don't want to send the wrong message to all of you. Nope, not a cold-hearted "B" that does not attend her parent's funeral. Just a smart girl that knows what would take place if I were there.

I am left to deal with this in my own way. Not an ideal situation but to know me is to understand that I will take it all as it comes my way, feel it and get on with life. Thanks for caring

You are a smart lady. God Bless You!

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Apples. take care of you and yours, that's your #1 priority. As others have said you are loved and in our thoughts. Deal with all this the way you can handle it. No ones place to judge you, they aren't God.

Lori, great pics.

Janet, I am not dealing with quitting the cigs very well. Can't get beyond the times when I am bored. Wearing patch all day don't have a smoke. At night I don't seem to be able to JUST SAY NO. have cut back majorally. Not sure if I am ready or if these Patches will work. It's a head problem I think.

Also just found out the guy I was dating for 9 yrs has a brain tumor. Don't know much else he passed out and had a seizure. One of his friends called and told me the other day. Lots of mixed up emotions swirling in my head right now.

I will deal.

Laura K

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Apples. take care of you and yours, that's your #1 priority. As others have said you are loved and in our thoughts. Deal with all this the way you can handle it. No ones place to judge you, they aren't God.

Lori, great pics.

Janet, I am not dealing with quitting the cigs very well. Can't get beyond the times when I am bored. Wearing patch all day don't have a smoke. At night I don't seem to be able to JUST SAY NO. have cut back majorally. Not sure if I am ready or if these Patches will work. It's a head problem I think.

Also just found out the guy I was dating for 9 yrs has a brain tumor. Don't know much else he passed out and had a seizure. One of his friends called and told me the other day. Lots of mixed up emotions swirling in my head right now.

I will deal.

Laura K

Thank you so much for the kind words, LauraK.

Sorry to hear about your friend. Ugh...lots for him and his family to deal with, I'm sure.

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Ah Apples, sounds like you are knowing what the right thing for you to do is and you will get through this, it just sucks right now being in the middle of it. Vent away, no one here is going to judge a thing, that's not our job, we are here to support you.

Just got home from an almost 3 hour lunch at McD's. LOL We went there because my friend had to eat quick and get home to vaccuum and get ready for carpet cleaners. OOOPS, we just yakked and yakked. Guess now her husband gets the job as she had to go to work. LOL It was fun to catch up.

I am still really feeling the jet lag. I am so sleepy in the middle of the day and then wide awake about 330am.

Thanks for the comments on my pics, yep DH is a tall one, he's 6'6 (my son is 6'8). I wasn't sure about posting the capri one as it shows my fat calves. LOL But I gotta get over that.

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Ah Apples, sounds like you are knowing what the right thing for you to do is and you will get through this, it just sucks right now being in the middle of it. Vent away, no one here is going to judge a thing, that's not our job, we are here to support you.

Just got home from an almost 3 hour lunch at McD's. LOL We went there because my friend had to eat quick and get home to vaccuum and get ready for carpet cleaners. OOOPS, we just yakked and yakked. Guess now her husband gets the job as she had to go to work. LOL It was fun to catch up.

I am still really feeling the jet lag. I am so sleepy in the middle of the day and then wide awake about 330am.

Thanks for the comments on my pics, yep DH is a tall one, he's 6'6 (my son is 6'8). I wasn't sure about posting the capri one as it shows my fat calves. LOL But I gotta get over that.

Thanks Lori...actually, not in the middle of anything. I will not allow that or set myself up for that. I have totally distanced myself from them. What I am in the middle of is grieving (yes, even though he was a tyrant) and also grieving for what could have been. As I stated...I will work through everything and allow things to settle down.

Anyway, just appreciate you and all of the girls here. Can't get much better support and concern than you guys have provided the last few days. And, I thank you for that.:blushing:

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Can anyone say "stress eating"? Good thing I have some room to grow. Cereal, ice cream, Snickers, Rollos, sesame sticks, Cheetos, etc., etc., etc.,

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