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Went to doc today. Havne't been in in two months. I felt like I needed a fill. I can eat tons of food at dinner. BUT I had lost 14 pounds in two months. We talked at great length about everything and he finally decided no fill. He thinks I've been very successful with that much of a loss, and didn't want to make me to tight. I'm really happpy that he's pleased with me, but major bummed at the same time. It was SO HARD to lose those 14 pounds. I fought hunger after working out every week. He said he was tickled pink about my muscle tone and said to keep working out. I do Water aerobics. Three different kinds. My blood pressure was 114/ 72. That is FANTASTIC for me. I may get completely off my meds yet. So I have a lot to be thankful for but I'm SO DISAPPOINTED that I didnt get a fill. Should I be happy or bummed?

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HI aubrie, its ok if you can get in to see him easily. It wasn't so easy at first for me to get in for a fill. At my 1st fill I was told that I lost a good amount of weight and that we should wait for a fill. I was ok with that until I found out that I had to wait almost 4 months for another fill!!!! I understand, tho. Call in another week for another appt. And then lie OK maybe just stretch the truth

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Did you tell him you were hungry all the time and doing it on willpower? It seems like some surgeons don't really understand that obese people can diet up a storm; it's keeping it off that is the problem. They see the weight loss as a sign that the band is working when you may just be in diet mode, like so many times before.

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EXACTLY!!!! After a workout, I'm actually ravenous. He told me I was eating dinner to late. Well I work. Duh.... I go straight to the club after work. My class is 6:00 to 7:00. I get home at 7:30 and start dinner. I get it on the table around 8:30. I could eat the ass hole out of a rat by then! I tend to snack while it's cooking. He won't allow Snacks, so I feel guilty and I'm SO HUNGRY!!! He thinks I'm not eating enough at lunch, but I'm stuffed and uncomfortable on my little 3/4 cup of food. I can't eat anymore. My band is tighter earlier in the day. I REFUSE to get up at 4:00 AM to go work out. That's over the top, I'm sorry.....

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If you can only eat 3/4 of a cup during the day, then I'd just ignore him and have a planned snack between lunch and dinner, preferably right before working out. If you plan it, account for the calories in your daily allotment, and eat something healthy for it, then I see nothing wrong with it, no matter what the doctor says.

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If you can only eat 3/4 of a cup during the day, then I'd just ignore him and have a planned snack between lunch and dinner, preferably right before working out. If you plan it, account for the calories in your daily allotment, and eat something healthy for it, then I see nothing wrong with it, no matter what the doctor says.

This sounds like the best solution to me as well. Have something high in Protein to help get you through your workout, and yet felling enough to last you until you can get dinner fixed. IMO, as long as you stick to your doctor's calorie, Protein, carb requirements for the day, it should be up to you when you get them and how. The same plan isn't going to work for everyone and obviously the way it is now, his plan is not working for you. Take care and try to keep you chin up!

Always choose laugh over cry.

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I'm curious...My doctor or dietitian has not set calorie limits, etc. for me. They just ask how much food do I eat? What is the calorie limit your doctor set for you?

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Aubrie:

My doctor recommended that I have FF yogurt, or a piece of fruit, or something like that at about 4 o'clock because I told him I was so hungry by the time I got home I'd eat the butt off a dog. He said that it's not good to wait too many hours between eating. Try having a healthy snack and it should help you stay on plan.

Congratulations on your loss and exercise habits.

Sue

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