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blkshadow91    0

blkshadow91
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Again, thank you all so much for your helpful words...it is such a struggle but I will get there, I am sick and tired of being sick and tired...more so than you will ever know....i want my life back, i want me back, i want the happy, smiling, fun loving, free spirit, the world won't get me down ME BACK!!! cuz i sure have let the world and other things bring me down, as far down as you can go, there is no where else to go but up and i guess what they say is true, "you have to hit rock bottom before you can go up" and I hit it and hit it hard and have laid there for about 5years....its time...

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Dear blkshadow,

Your post brought tears to my eyes. I am glad to see that you are getting help and starting antidepressants. Remember that just because one antidepressant works on one person doesn't mean it will work on others. If you feel that you are still depressed, talk to your doctor and try another. It may take trying a few different meds to find the right one. It also takes a few weeks for them to "kick in". Don't give up on them!!!

I am glad that you have found this site, because you will definitely get support and encouragement from us! We are all in the same boat as you are! Once you get your depression under control, life won't seem as bleak!

We are here for you!!

Terri

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My Heart really goes out to you. I don't have all the family problems that you have, and that can take so much out of you. I'm at my heaviest weight also. I just did my psych appointment, and the questionaire I had to answer did show mild depression mainly due to my health problems and my weight (duh!) This is a great place to read and get support. It is a nice feeling to know that you are not alone. I've gotten alot of strength and support here.

Good luck to you, and remember that this is about you and getting healthy.

Molly

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blkshadow91    0

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yes, i am finally learning that I need to focus on me...i can't be in a relationship or be the great mom I am unless I take care of me....and i havn't taken care of me in a very long time....i have a soul but i lost my being!! went to a contemporary worship this evening and they said without your soul and being in tact and without loving yourself completely you can invite misery quickly...and i thought..yes i have my soul...but somewhere along the way i lost my "being" and i don't love all of myself...i love the good qualities but not the shell that houses them....a little crazy i know...again thank you to all of you...your the best

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Because she might not think I'm over weight enough or I haven't tired hard enought to lose weight. But I'm going to tell her that I feel it's the right thing for me to do . That I also want to get a refferal to a surgeon.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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