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:frown:I just had my surgery 4/17 and I am so afraid I am going to fail at this. I weighed 202 postop and today I went to my first appt and weighed 5 lbs less. I am doing well with eating liquids with Protein but I must admit I love a couple of glasses of wine at night (have a 2.5 yo and a 5.5 yo boys).... What if I fail at this, I so want to make this work and feel so blessed to have had this procedure done...:crying:

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I was banded on 4/16, and I have been very afraid of failing.

It is very early after your operation to be weighing yourself. After the surgery you have bloating, swelling, and Water retention, so that is going to account for some of the "weight." I have not weighed myself yet. I am STILL swollen from the surgery. DH says I have lost weight, and my face looks a little less puffy, but who knows, right? :cry_smile:

Hang in there. This is a wonderful place for support. Listen to your doctor and don't stress out. It's all gonna be ok. :rolleyes2:

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I am feeling the same way- I was banded on 4/9 and now that all of the swelling and pain are diminishing my appetite is back- and even though Im still on liquids and soft things Im worried that Im going to feel so hungry that Im going to do something bad until my fill which isnt until 5/20!!! Thats almost a whole month away!! Im nervous because I have already lost 26 pounds and desperately do not want to gain. Ugh. I completely understand where you are coming from....:huh2:

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You should be able to eat that soon- as long as the refried Beans are fat free...give it a few days and try a bit and if its not comfortable- try again in a few days. Those were two mushy foods my doc told me I could have as long as prepared low or no fat

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We are all world class yo-yo dieters. I think we are all scared to fail on this one. All you can do is take it one day at a time, remember the scale is not your friend. I am addicted to mine, its a harsh reminder that all my life I have been battling this demon and it is winning at this stage of the game. But I got a secret weapon coming in in may and it will help me win the final battle with this. Just remember the Band is a tool to help you make the right and smart choices, and you can only take this one day at a time.

If you start to feel stressed and overwhelmed take a step back, deep breaths and just remind yourself you can do this!! You have what it takes.

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PIX is right. Gee I wish I could have had her words of encouragement when I started my journey. All of you are doing so well. Better than you think!!! Good Luck!!

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I was banded 21st of March and I am still thinking of that this is not going to work for me. I have lost weight, but all on my own. My surgeon says that the band is not doing anything for me until the first fill. I have had my first fill and I still feel the same way. I go for my second fill on 5/16. I was starting to wonder if I had done the right thing by getting the LB, but now I am more than determined to make this work. I have put too much time into this ( and money), that I don't want it to fail me.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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