Want Procedure...No Support

SweetBunie · July 24, 2008

David,

I will remember you in prayer that your approval comes quickly. I remember when I was waiting and it seemed like forever. I have had my band since April 16, 2008 and have lost 30 pounds. It has been the easiest thing I have ever done to lose weight. I have been blessed not to have had any of the problems that I have seen that others have had. I thank God for this band and that it has worked so well for me.

Keep the faith and you too will be on the path to recovery. :biggrin2:

Mommie_of_4 · July 25, 2008

Thank you all for your replies and support!!

I told my hubby and we are discussing it. He wasn't as stand-offish as I thought he would be. But he was out of town when I told him (couldn't hold it off until he came back) and we are going to talk about it some more when he gets home this weekend.

Good news!! I have seen the doctor, nutritionist, pysch dr., and Tricare has approved. My surgery date is set for Sept. 15th!! So I'm really excited!

David ~ do what is best for you and like you said your wife will follow your lead.

Shamrockgirl60 · July 27, 2008

Wonderful news M4, you can show your husband all the info on Lap Band and what it is all about. I'm sure when your face to face and tell him how much you want this for you, him and the kids he will understand. Take care and God Bless. September will come before you know it. I have one week to go for my surgery. I am sooooo excited.

Mommie_of_4 · July 28, 2008

Good Luck Shamrock!! Keep us posted on how things are going!!

U_go_gurl68 · July 29, 2008

Mommie,

Congrats on your approval for surgery. The time will pass before you know it.

I am guessing your husband will probably come around, especially when you don't back down and do this for you. My fiance pretended to be supportive of my surgery until about a week or two out. He suddenly became standoffish and never wanted to talk about anything related to my surgery or recovery. He was even going to pay for it, or at least he said, until right before the date came. I thought I wasn't going to be able to have my surgery, but God was on my side. I was able to get a loan against my 401k and the surgery was on as planned.

The morning of my surgery, my fiance told me in not so many words that we were over, but he wanted to be the one to take me anyway. I guess he thought I would back down and give it up. I stood my ground and went through with it and ever since, he has a new respect for me and does everything he can to help me. He was very insecure and thought I would make so many changes and find someone else. I don't think those fears have totally gone away, but at least he is supportive now. He is also seeing how much hard work and discipline go into making the band work, something he thought I lacked in my other attempts to lose weight. He didn't fully understand before and somehow thought I would wake up and magically lose the weight (I wish). He is my biggest supporter now and even wants to know more about everything on a daily basis so that he can help me.

I think once your husband gets more information and sees how important this is to you, he will be more supportive. I wish you all the best in your journey.

Sincerely,

Stephanie

Mommie_of_4 · July 29, 2008

smarquezrn ~ Thanks. I think he will be supportive once he finds out more about the surgery.

Glad your fiance saw the light and is now supporting you!!

pmcfarm · July 29, 2008

Hi everyone. I'm new to this board but I just want to be a positive voice for Tricare Prime. My surgery was approved 6 days after my 1st consult. My surgery will probably be early October. All my pre-op required appts. are scheduled in August/Sept (8 in all). My surgeon is putting in a filter in to prevent clot transfer from legs to lungs (lung clot after knee replacement in January). My recommendation for all you younger people who have wt. issues uncontrolled by diet/excercise programs....look at your weight issues as very real and do something to avoid side effects of obesity. And while I'm on my rant...don't do it for spouse, kids, family...do it for you (they will reap the benefits) and the flip side of that coin do it for you regardless of the flack (its usually temporary). I agree with all who have talked about the support you receive here...it has been great. MarilynC.