Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

My son just had the surgery on Monday :)



Recommended Posts

Hello -- my son Max just had the surgery done on February 25 - he was his surgeon's youngest patient as he just turned 18 on January 12th, so it is pretty cool. I initially signed up for this forum for myself last year, but when he expressed an interest in banding, we turned our attention to him and I really cannot wait to see how he changes.

Unfortunately, the "registration" here won't allow him to be a member so I may have to register him as a 21 year-old so he can participate in the forums as himself, but I actually had a question -- are there any family, support people here that talk? I am having guilt feelings for cooking in my house right now because I know he is finally getting "hungry" after being on full-clear-back to full liquids for two weeks. I don't want to sneak food, but I am wondering if there is anything anyone can suggest for the support "staff" when it comes to eating.

I have already changed the way I eat as a show of support. But I can't honestly boil all my food so no odor permeates from my house :laugh:

Thanks in advance,

Penni

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Martha, Good for you for being such a great support for your son. As far as the food smells go there really isn't much you can do. Maybe just don't sit in front of him eating something delicious while he is on clear fluids. If he sips at least 5omls fluids every 1/2 hour he should be able to stop the hunger pains a little. Is he on a Protein type of drink as these usually help. I was banded on the 16th Jan.08 and found that sipping really did help. Good luck to your son. I can't see why he shouldn't have his own e-mail account on here. There is a lot of support for every one on here. Best to you both.

Saleel22

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You should be given a gold star for your efforts to help your son become a healthier person. I haven't been banded yet. I am sure the liquid diet is very difficult. Your son will get through this. It's so wonderful to see how you all are so courteous to his feelings. Maybe you can distract him with a magazine or a walk out of the house. If he is ready.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Martha, I think you are doing wonderful and it is great to see that you are so supportive of your son. It is definitely tough being on liquids when everyone else around you is eating regular food. But, when I had my band I knew that was going to be part of the process and made the commitment to stick to it. I continued to eat at the dinner table with everyone else, but I just ate my liquid meal instead. I felt better doing that, because at least I was still a part of things.

Max, welcome. Be sure to check out the forums for teen bandsters and let us know if you have any questions.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Max, Good on you for having the band done. I only wish this had been available when I was a bit younger. I was done on the 16th January and am loosing weight slowly. I am happy that the weight is coming off though and not going on as it usually would before the op. Good luck on your journey. You will find every one on here very supportive.Best of luck to you.

Saleel22

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Dear Martha,

I am new and read your post. My 19 year old son is having band surgery Monday July 21. I was wondering how your son Max is doing? Are you both glad he had it done? What is he eating now, and is he having any complications? When was he able to exercise and feel normal again? What tips as a mother could you give me as far as cooking etc. goes. Any advise would be helpful. Thanks! Robin

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×