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I am a pervert all the time, and would want it multiple times a day if my boyfriend would give it to me, (he is the one who controls whether we have it or not, because I am so bad. I know right normally the woman usually has the upper hand) So I am sorry I cant help you there. If all of you do say your sex drives goes up, I dont know what I will do, because it is already bad. Haha.. Good Question!

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I have an insanely high sex drive as it is. Can't imagine what it'll be like when I lose all this weight. Watch out men! lol

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Lord help me if mine goes up afterwards...my fiance's has kind of died in the last year or so and it's like pulling teeth to get him to more than once a week! I would have it 2-3 times a day if I could...I feel your pain, Lanie.

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Gee, I wish I had the "problem" some of you have: insanely high libidos!! I'm sure my husband wishes I had that problem too!! I posted about this on the Lounge forum (I think that's where...), but I have basically no sex drive due to anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medications :thumbup:. I wish I could just go off them all. Any tips for me??????

Robin

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Have you asked your doctor about Wellbutrin? It's supposed to have less sexual side effects.

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I've always said that if after losing weight some guy that knew me when I was bigger tries getting with me it would be a nono because if they weren't into me when I was big then I don't want them. :smile:

I feel exactly the same way. Not that I've ever been after the guys I hang out with (seriously, just....no) but I think that if they start going after me, but only after losing weight I'll be really pissed!

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Angelyco,

I am already taking Wellbutrin (along with Lexapro, Seroquel and Trazodone). I think the problem may be the Lexapro, but I cut my dose in half and it hasn't seemed to make a difference. Thanks though!

Robin

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Im also on wellbutrin and im not sure if that helps but my sex drive is out teh roof and i have noone as of yet to go with!! im finally losing weight and feeling better about myself and i just dont want the men who are giving me attention...my idea is if i wait a bit more and lose more weight i will find a guy i truly want bc right now im not interested in some...haha but i am excited to find out if sex when i dont have all this fat on me will be so much better...and more positions!!!

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Gee, I wish I had the "problem" some of you have: insanely high libidos!! I'm sure my husband wishes I had that problem too!! I posted about this on the Lounge forum (I think that's where...), but I have basically no sex drive due to anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medications :angry_smile:. I wish I could just go off them all. Any tips for me??????

Robin

I take anti-depresant/anit anxiety meds too & it hasn't affected me in that way. I've always had a high sex drive & lord help me after all the weight comes off & being single too...DAMN!!!! Anway, sorry, got sidetracked there for a sec...ha...Try talking to your doc about changing meds. If that doesn't work, then be creative, use your imagination, whatever it takes to enjoy it because you're too young to give up now!!!! Good luck!

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At least with being single, you have no problems taking care of "business" yourself. Now that I've been living with my fiancee for about a year now, I get lazy and don't want to...because I know I could be having someone else do it. But darnit, he's either not home or not in the mood most of the time!

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At least with being single, you have no problems taking care of "business" yourself. Now that I've been living with my fiancee for about a year now, I get lazy and don't want to...because I know I could be having someone else do it. But darnit, he's either not home or not in the mood most of the time!

well thats when you start taking care of business solo - even in front of him, that may get his attention... i did that in my last relationship before i was married... that seemed to get him in the mood..

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Ooooh, I'll have to try that!

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I hear ya missy0224

I have this guy I use to hang with and he loved to have sex with me when I was big and still likes to with me as a size 10! He has my heart for that one! Just makes you appreciate them!

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As a guy, my sex drive has gone way way way down....I have gained like 90 lbs the last 4 year. since the last 6 months, i could go without sex for almost 2 weeks. Before that I could go like 3 times a day and almost everyday. I know it has somewhat to do with the weight gain and somewhat witht he pinched nerve in my back. Hopefully these 2 problems will be taken care of after the lapband. Cant wait to get lapbanded.

Did any guys have this kind of experience?

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