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I can remember this like it was yesterday...and yet it was 25 years ago. I was in third grade gym class and these two girls were talking (I thought they were my friends) so I got in on the conversation. They were talking about God and what kinds of things were sins. (Her Daddy was a preacher.) And then this skinny blonde girl looked at me and said "You know it's a sin to overeat. It's called glutony." (The first time I ever heard this term.) And then she went on to tell me that I should ask for forgiveness for being fat or else I would go to hell.

I can't begin to tell you what kind of screwed up headgame that did on me. Wouldn't her preacher Daddy be proud of her for "Loving Thy Neighbor?"

I think that I'm still pissed off by this.....Ok, DeLarla you win.....LET IT GO! POOF! It's gone.

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I was never overweight while in school - I was extremely UNDERWEIGHT!!! So, I was referred to as skinny minnie, boney marony, and one day while walking down the hallway a guy stopped me to ask if I were planning to become a teacher one day since I already had two pencils (referring to my legs). I went home in tears most days as it was not fashionable to be very thin at that time. My grandmother cooked herbs for me that were suppose to help put weight on, and always told me I was beautiful but to no avail. I hated my body. And look at me now!! GO FIGURE

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I'm reading all these posts and I can't believe how honest and willing to share with all of us those things that have deeply hurt us in the past. Some of these hurts I can't even speak about yet. I do hope at some point I am able to accept and let go. I was never really picked on to my face but there was always on comment by people that bothered me. They have always told me "You have such a pretty face" as if that was all there was to me. I always wished as a teenager that I could be "not so pretty". I would glady trade my size 18 body(at that time) for a few pimples and a thin body. Now, with my banding in the near future..I'm not so sure:hurt

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cry.gif Hmm let's see...I started gaining weight when i was 13, in junior high school. I know I was teased, but can't remember, or at least don't want to remember the names that I was called. But, one thing sticks out in my mind vividly. For gym class each girl was weighed. Of course we were all weighed in front of each other. I wasn't obese then, but I was definiately overweight and enough to be embarrassed about it. I remember that I was mortified and my excuses came quickly. I told one girl well you appear thinner than me b/c you are taller. How awful was it that I was 13 and already knew that. I also remember that throughout my school years I hated gym class, I hated big crowds, walking in the halls with the other kids was so intimidating to me. I can't believe I've let food and weight control my whole life. It's awful!!!! I remember growing up my mom would always say some kind of comment when she saw me eating too much, or snacking a lot. HMMM, didn't she know that it made me EAT more??!!!?? I ate when I was depressed, happy, sad, angry, bored, anxious, alone...Just for no reason at all. I am only 16 days out and find that food still controls my life. I think about it most of the time. Last night we were hanging out with friends, playing games, they ordered pizza, and had Snacks. I wasn't hungry my egg drop Soup and Protein pudding filled me up just fine. But of course, instead of enjoying each other's company in my mind I obsessed about wanting that pizza and wanting those chips. Does it ever end? I don't want food to control my life or monopolize my mind!!!!! It's sad, but it's reality. Food seems to be the only thing that comforts me, in the moment of course, but then it becomes the devil. I want to be FREE!

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Pea & the Pea, I stayed around the store waiting for the manager to drag the guy out by his ear, but the manager was very professional and would not let anyone see what went on behind closed doors. Damn.

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I wasn't overweight as a child but I walked "funny" because of my disability. (tho didn't know what it was back then. Didn't get diagnosed until my 30's) I remember some kids asking me if I wanted some fries to go with that shake of mine. Sounds silly but it has stayed in that memory of mine. Now I walk with crutches in public and I always think people are looking at me and thinking I can't walk because I'm fat. I'm trying to have tunnel vision but I still see all the looks.

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These two things happened to me recently.

I was walking through a shopping centre car park and a car slowed down next to me and the guy in the car told me I should go to a fat-farm.

I was in a supermarket and heard a group of spotty teens making fat jokes and noises. I was horrified, but then I saw a woman who seemed to be in charge of them and told her that she should be teaching them some manners etc.

What I find hard to accept is that these assholes must have fat auntys or mums or sisters etc. and they can still act like that.

At school it was UFO - unidentified fat object - for some reason I find it slightly amusing now.

Fatty boomba

Kids are so cruel - chances were you would get picked on for some reason.

That's all well in hindsight.

Take care, Rachel.

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Oh Yeah,

How's this for a charming practice.

I was really young when I started going to Weight Watchers with my mum. I must of been about 10yrs old, so about 28 yrs ago.

Anyone who gained weight had to go in the "Pig Pen" - a sectioned off area - for the entire night!!!

Rachel.

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OMG! that is horrible! You would think WW would be more sensitive (even 28 years ago).

As for me, I was not an overweight child but my sister and mother were VERY large so I heard it from another side of it and was very keen to people's feelings on weight issues. I never joined any of my friends in their "fat jokes" but I have to admit I never stopped it either. I look back now and am ashamed I didn't speak up. In my small school, the "fat" kids were also the ones that were mean mean mean and bullies. I know now that it was all a defense mechanism and they probably weren't mean at all, they were protecting themselves. But at the time of me being a kid, I didn't want to be their friend either for fear.

But this one story happened to my mother once (about 22 years ago) and I was there..... We were going on a plane and my mom's seatbelt wouldn't fit. She didn't say anything and just tucked it. She began to get out the "snacks" for me to be comfy during the flight. The flight attendant came and told her she needed to buckle her seatbelt. My mom tried to be quiet and tell her that it wouldn't fit and loudly the stewardess said, "well then I guess you will have to put the food down and SUCK IT IN!" My mom was mortified. She never said anything but I remember seeing the tears in her eyes.

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my brother was mainly the one i remember always making fun of me and I always used to cry about it, especially at night before bed, but oddly as loving as my mother was she never did anything to stop it - she just let it be as a big brother/little sister thing - but it was so much more than that. he was terrible - I don't remember specifics I just remember I hated him growing up because he ALWAYS made fun of me being fat.

my brother called me SFK for short - Super Fat Kid - it still gets brought up occasionally at family functions when we talk about terrible things he used to do to us growing up - even now it still bothers me - can't wait for it to be brought up when I'm skinny.

got called Thunder Thighs

My real name is Riccarda and for some reason some ignorant people liked to call me Rotunda instead or Retarda.....(i f*cking hate that one to this day! and occasionally someone still tries to be funny by saying this!!) I actually didn't have too many problems being called Retarda after I beat up the most popular boy in 3rd grade after school for calling me this and made him look like an ass for getting beat up by a fat girl! But I hear it occasionally from the ignorant adult and I simply say gee that's original - I haven't heard that since I beat up a boy in 3rd grade for calling me that.

Funny how after all these years, it still stings like yesterday.

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