So unmotivated to do anything, but frustrated that I'm not doing anything!!!

[ShoppGirl 5,072]

1 hour ago, SleeveToBypass2023 said:

I'm just so frustrated. I have so many things I want to do and complete and accomplish. My GoFundMe has had zero traction (not sure if it's even being shared, tbh), money is so tight, and there's just no wiggle room right now. I need to get these certifications to move up and make more money, but I don't currently make enough to be able to do that, so I'm stuck at the wage I'm currently at. It's enough to get by and pay the bills, but there's NOTHING left over to pay for the things I need to get ahead and do better. UGH.......

I made myself work out yesterday and today, and even though I didn't want to, I did it anyway. And I honestly felt a little better. I'm prepping some meals that way I can just grab them and go and not worry about it. I definitely still take care of my hygiene and I'm completely safe (and will stay that way).

Good. Glad to hear that you are starting to get moving. That should really help. My husband jumped about me being Miss rainbows and sunshine when I first started to exercise daily. I think I am still more positive but it’s just that now he is used to it and before he was used to miss BA hum big. The movement really should help lift your mood and give you time to reflect and maybe come up with some ideas of how to reach your goal. Perhaps something that requires a lot of activity but also makes some extra money that you can do just an hour or two a night or on the weekends. It may take a while but you could get your exercise and o ur name money away towards your next step for your career.

[ShoppGirl 5,072]

Wow that was alot of typos. I woke up and I thought I was wide awake but apparently not. lol. I was trying to say that my husband joked about me being all peppy and positive when I got into my groove with exercising because I was feeling so good but now I’m still the same way it’s just that he’s used to it. It’s really how I was when he met me and before I got overweight and out of shape and wasn’t moving my body it’s just that it had been so long overtime. I guess I got cranky and he got used to it. 😂

My thought was what if you could do something for like an hour at night instead of dedicated exercise something that would make you a little bit of money like dog walking or going around the neighborhood and dragging people’s trash cans in or something like that. Even washing cars or mowing laws if you can handle that physically (I know I couldn’t handle the heat but they are just random ideas). You may be able to think of something that would work for you. I mean, it wouldn’t be a ton of money for a few hours, but it would be moving your body and making a little extra at the same time to put towards your goal. My friend is a single mom and she cleans offices at night for extra cash and says that’s actually a pretty good workout because she gets paid by the job so she moves her butt to get it done. 🤷‍♀️

Edited February 2 by ShoppGirl

[SpartanMaker 1,350]

11 hours ago, SleeveToBypass2023 said:

I'm just so frustrated. I have so many things I want to do and complete and accomplish. My GoFundMe has had zero traction (not sure if it's even being shared, tbh), money is so tight, and there's just no wiggle room right now. I need to get these certifications to move up and make more money, but I don't currently make enough to be able to do that, so I'm stuck at the wage I'm currently at. It's enough to get by and pay the bills, but there's NOTHING left over to pay for the things I need to get ahead and do better. UGH.......

I made myself work out yesterday and today, and even though I didn't want to, I did it anyway. And I honestly felt a little better. I'm prepping some meals that way I can just grab them and go and not worry about it. I definitely still take care of my hygiene and I'm completely safe (and will stay that way).

I'm reminded of something one of my mentors used to say a lot: "Progress, not Perfection". To me it sounds like you're making great progress! I personally think you need to both Celebrate your progress, as well as give yourself some grace for not being perfect, since none of us are perfect.

Regarding the certifications, is there a way to get the money some other way? is this the sort of training/certification where school grants or loans would be an option? If not, what about a personal loan? I'm guessing you may have already evaluated this avenue, but I thought I'd mention it, just in case.

[SleeveToBypass2023 2,680]

42 minutes ago, SpartanMaker said:

I'm reminded of something one of my mentors used to say a lot: "Progress, not Perfection". To me it sounds like you're making great progress! I personally think you need to both Celebrate your progress, as well as give yourself some grace for not being perfect, since none of us are perfect.

Regarding the certifications, is there a way to get the money some other way? is this the sort of training/certification where school grants or loans would be an option? If not, what about a personal loan? I'm guessing you may have already evaluated this avenue, but I thought I'd mention it, just in case.

I can't use any student loans for these certifications. I tried a loan and my credit isn't good enough. Part of the reason I want to get the certifications is so I can make more money and repair my credit. And also to catch up on bills and finally build my nest egg back up. My husband is disabled and I'm the main breadwinner, so this is REALLY important. I don't have anything left to sell, so the crowd funding is all I have left to try. But I'm not going to let it get to me. Or at least, I'm going to try not to. I'm going on a hike in a little while and then I'm going to take a long shower and take a nap. And then I'm going to spend the rest of the day chillaxing and watching true crime on youtube.

[ShoppGirl 5,072]

1 hour ago, SleeveToBypass2023 said:

I can't use any student loans for these certifications. I tried a loan and my credit isn't good enough. Part of the reason I want to get the certifications is so I can make more money and repair my credit. And also to catch up on bills and finally build my nest egg back up. My husband is disabled and I'm the main breadwinner, so this is REALLY important. I don't have anything left to sell, so the crowd funding is all I have left to try. But I'm not going to let it get to me. Or at least, I'm going to try not to. I'm going on a hike in a little while and then I'm going to take a long shower and take a nap. And then I'm going to spend the rest of the day chillaxing and watching true crime on youtube.

What about asking your employer? if you were willing to sign something saying you would stay there for a certain amount of time and make less money to make up for it would they be willing to pay for your certification? Enjoy your hike and true crime. I’ve heard a lot of people talk about that show.

Edited February 2 by ShoppGirl

[tomhanks22 4]

On 2/2/2025 at 6:58 PM, SleeveToBypass2023 said:

I can't use any student loans for these certifications. I tried a loan and my credit isn't good enough. Part of the reason I want to get the certifications is so I can make more money and repair my credit. And also to catch up on bills and finally build my nest egg back up. My husband is disabled and I'm the main breadwinner, so this is REALLY important. I don't have anything left to sell, so the crowd funding is all I have left to try. But I'm not going to let it get to me. Or at least, I'm going to try not to. I'm going on a hike in a little while and then I'm going to take a long shower and take a nap. And then I'm going to spend the rest of the day chillaxing and watching true crime on youtube. I understand you perfectly. I had a similar situation with my credit history - I wanted to improve it, but without sufficient income it is impossible to get a good loan. It turns out to be a vicious circle. I really needed the money and it's good that I read on https://www.godisageek.com/2021/11/the-most-famous-gambling-video-games-for-consoles/ and gambling and realized that you need to treat it as fun. In general, I advise you to try alternative sources of income or partial courses to move forward. The main thing is not to get hung up on temporary failures.

Your plan to get certified is great, it's just that the process can be slow.

Edited March 17 by tomhanks22