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Lets have a candid talk. I was hesitant but ive been transparent thus far. I recently had sex…. Both times? Left me in PAIN. My incisions no longer hurt so im wondering if its my insides still trying to heal. Its unfortunate because… like anyone, i enjoy it😂. But post surgery? Not being able to walk or feeling pain is concerning and it sucks. Im going to lay off of it and give my body more healing time.

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How long post-op are you? I know my surgeon said not to have sex/any sexual activity for around 2-4 weeks!

But definitely if it hurts, probably too soon for you! :(

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Sex can mean a lot of different things to differnt people or at different times. I mean if your a ways out and it was pretty low key I wouldn’t think it would cause any issue but if it was a workout that you’d only be able to duplicate at a gym and you haven’t yet been cleared to go to the gym then its probably not the best idea. If it hurts though, I think waiting a little while longer is probably a good call.

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i was wondering your exact surgery date as well but I think from prior posts that if I remember correctly it’s been a little over a month for you. If you update your surgery info it will really help us to answer specific questions.

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On 07/10/2024 at 03:07, Bypass2Freedom said:



How long post-op are you? I know my surgeon said not to have sex/any sexual activity for around 2-4 weeks!




But definitely if it hurts, probably too soon for you! :(


I had my surgery june 4 so i’m one month in. Im not sure if i need more time to heal… but whew im slowing down asap

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I waited 8 weeks after the sleeve and 12 weeks after the bypass. I was cleared after 6 weeks both times, but the thought is, I wanna make sure I give my body the best chance to heal.

ALSO, keep in mind that you're on limited exercise until 6 weeks post op. Nothing heavy or strenuous. So if you're only a month post op (4 weeks) it's likely too soon. Definitely wait at least 2 more weeks before trying again. But maybe wait another 4, just to be safe...

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I did the do about 2 weeks after, it was gentle LOL no working it and reversing it you know what I mean. I have noticed sex is wayyyyyy better now that I am smaller, Also (might be TMI) now that I dont have as much fat, sex gets deeper and positions are more of a variety so soreness happens with me. Not a pain soreness but like "why am I sore? Oh ya I did the deed"

I mean your partner and you can engage in oral if your into that, it helps with sexual desires.

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On 07/10/2024 at 10:44, AmberFL said:



I did the do about 2 weeks after, it was gentle LOL no working it and reversing it you know what I mean. I have noticed sex is wayyyyyy better now that I am smaller, Also (might be TMI) now that I dont have as much fat, sex gets deeper and positions are more of a variety so soreness happens with me. Not a pain soreness but like "why am I sore? Oh ya I did the deed"




I mean your partner and you can engage in oral if your into that, it helps with sexual desires.


I was doing way too much😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

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17 minutes ago, Dchonlee said:

I was doing way too much😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

When you have more energy and your feeling yourself, its hard to hold back! LOL!!

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59 minutes ago, AmberFL said:

When you have more energy and your feeling yourself, its hard to hold back! LOL!!

Now now @AmberFL we are trying to get her to abstain for a while longer. 🤣

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On 07/10/2024 at 14:52, ShoppGirl said:






Now now @AmberFL we are trying to get her to abstain for a while longer. 🤣


😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 yeah im keeping my parts to myself. That pain after was not worth it. During was incredible! But after? Nope!

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On 07/10/2024 at 13:51, AmberFL said:






When you have more energy and your feeling yourself, its hard to hold back! LOL!!


Legit! Losing weight and fitting things better, ive been HOT!😂😂

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20 hours ago, ShoppGirl said:

Now now @AmberFL we are trying to get her to abstain for a while longer. 🤣

LOLOL!!! I am the worst, I felt like we were back in the honeymoon stage all over again hahah!! I am not the one to ask so I will just lurk heheh

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54 minutes ago, Sami2209 said:

My discharge paperwork says you can resume sec at 1 week post op. It sounds like my surgeon’s recommendations are not the norm.

54 minutes ago, Sami2209 said:

My discharge paperwork says you can resume sec at 1 week post op. It sounds like my surgeon’s recommendations are not the norm.

Yea, my dr didn’t even mention it but I would for sure what longer than a week. And even still take it easy.

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