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I am five months postop and think I am driving myself crazy. I have not lost any weight since November 11 right before the holidays and am terrified I messed my surgery up. I indulged a little too much with carbs during Thanksgiving and Christmas. I started this journey at 285 and am currently 227. I was 269 August 29th day of the sleeve. I followed my diet to the T until holidays :( How do I pick my weight loss back up?? Did I ruin this for good?? I def CANNOT eat as much as I used to but I can't seem to get back to starting point of Protein and 5%carbs and 5%fat limits on food items. I'm embarrassed to talk about it with anyone except this forum. All my bloodwork is great. I am doing some cardio and weights 5 days a week but not much as I'm slowly getting into it. But I feel like I've messed up my sleeve or something!! What If I did all this just to lose almost 60 pounds but to be honest I do feel the best I have in years. I just don't wanna give up :( I don't even know what to think about not losing weight all these months. I did gain/lose a few pounds (was 224 then was 230 now I'm 227). Am I going to be stuck at this weight forever??? Its only been 51/2 months!! Advice please!!!!

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OK - firstly, you are doing absolutely fine. Anyone who has lost 60lbs in 5.5 months is WINNING! We all stray from the path a little at times! You have already identified where you strayed - carbs. So from tomorrow, get back to your surgeon's plan. I suspect it will be Protein first, veg second, carbs last (by a long way). Stick to that. I have a sleeve and I was still losing miniscule amounts of weight almost 2 years out. You have loads of time to get to where you want to be. I wish you luck!

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I agree. Take a breath & Celebrate what you have achieved so far. Then, yes, get back in your surgeon/dietician's plan as you were before the holidays.

Make an appointment with your surgeon & your dietician. They’ve seen it all before & shouldn’t judge especially if you’re asking for help. Do you track your food? If you don’t maybe do it for a week or so to make sure you’re not missing something. It’s easy to miss something especially if you’ve let things slide or you’ve got a bit complacent about portion sizes, etc. And you can review it with your dietician. Maybe make an appointment with a therapist too to help you reflect on what was behind your slide & help you get back on track mentally & emotionally.

All the best.

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You have done so well and you look fabulous. I had a blip at Christmas too and its the first time that I had put a little weight back on. I was so mad at myself. It took me until all the festive food was out of the house. I could then shop better. I left carbs off my diet . Once I knuckled down and got my calories under 1200 for the day, it came off again.

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You look great and have made fantastic progress. You have nothing to worry about. What you want to look at are your NSVs (Non scale Victories). Here are a few of mine:

I was able to fit in normal sized chairs at doctor's offices and the movies

I was finally able to properly cross my legs when sitting

My clothes were getting looser and not fitting as snugly

I was able to wear 18" necklaces and they didn't fir like a choker

My ring size went from a 10 to a 6

I could sit at a booth in a restaurant and there is plenty of space between my stomach and the table and I wasn't squished up against it

I can wear bracelets and anklets now

I am no longer diabetic, no longer have painful joints, no longer have high blood pressure, and am off all the meds for those issues

When the scale isn't doing what we think it should be doing, look to your NSVs. That's what REALLY tells the tale with what your body is doing. Now, having said that, you gotta get back on your bariatric diet and re-dedicate yourself to it. The trick is to not undo all the progress you made. For me PERSONALLY, I can't let things like holidays and birthdays and special occasions be an excuse to go off my diet. I know that if I do, it'll be 10x harder to get back on track. So I make sure ahead of time that I have things I can eat that are compliant with my diet and still taste really good and allow me to be included with everyone else. Just keep that in mind going forward and you should do great.

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On 2/11/2024 at 8:13 AM, summerseeker said:

You have done so well and you look fabulous. I had a blip at Christmas too and its the first time that I had put a little weight back on. I was so mad at myself. It took me until all the festive food was out of the house. I could then shop better. I left carbs off my diet . Once I knuckled down and got my calories under 1200 for the day, it came off again.

If you want to reply to someone's comments, just press the quote button. Or you can put @summerseeker for example and pick the persons name out of the drop down list

Thank you for teaching me how to respond!!! And thank you for encouraging me

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On 2/11/2024 at 9:29 AM, SleeveToBypass2023 said:

You look great and have made fantastic progress. You have nothing to worry about. What you want to look at are your NSVs (Non scale Victories). Here are a few of mine:

I was able to fit in normal sized chairs at doctor's offices and the movies

I was finally able to properly cross my legs when sitting

My clothes were getting looser and not fitting as snugly

I was able to wear 18" necklaces and they didn't fir like a choker

My ring size went from a 10 to a 6

I could sit at a booth in a restaurant and there is plenty of space between my stomach and the table and I wasn't squished up against it

I can wear bracelets and anklets now

I am no longer diabetic, no longer have painful joints, no longer have high blood pressure, and am off all the meds for those issues

When the scale isn't doing what we think it should be doing, look to your NSVs. That's what REALLY tells the tale with what your body is doing. Now, having said that, you gotta get back on your bariatric diet and re-dedicate yourself to it. The trick is to not undo all the progress you made. For me PERSONALLY, I can't let things like holidays and birthdays and special occasions be an excuse to go off my diet. I know that if I do, it'll be 10x harder to get back on track. So I make sure ahead of time that I have things I can eat that are compliant with my diet and still taste really good and allow me to be included with everyone else. Just keep that in mind going forward and you should do great.

OMGOSH THIS WAS LIFE!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!

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On 2/11/2024 at 9:29 AM, SleeveToBypass2023 said:

You look great and have made fantastic progress. You have nothing to worry about. What you want to look at are your NSVs (Non scale Victories). Here are a few of mine:

I was able to fit in normal sized chairs at doctor's offices and the movies

I was finally able to properly cross my legs when sitting

My clothes were getting looser and not fitting as snugly

I was able to wear 18" necklaces and they didn't fir like a choker

My ring size went from a 10 to a 6

I could sit at a booth in a restaurant and there is plenty of space between my stomach and the table and I wasn't squished up against it

I can wear bracelets and anklets now

I am no longer diabetic, no longer have painful joints, no longer have high blood pressure, and am off all the meds for those issues

When the scale isn't doing what we think it should be doing, look to your NSVs. That's what REALLY tells the tale with what your body is doing. Now, having said that, you gotta get back on your bariatric diet and re-dedicate yourself to it. The trick is to not undo all the progress you made. For me PERSONALLY, I can't let things like holidays and birthdays and special occasions be an excuse to go off my diet. I know that if I do, it'll be 10x harder to get back on track. So I make sure ahead of time that I have things I can eat that are compliant with my diet and still taste really good and allow me to be included with everyone else. Just keep that in mind going forward and you should do great.

OMGOSH THIS WAS LIFE!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!

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