Will I miss being bigger?

[MsTeeTee 71]

So my surgery is tomorrow. And I’m starting to wonder. Will I miss the extra weight when it’s gone? I look at my clothes now and just say I will learn to sew and alter my current close to make them fit. Or the stuff that don’t fit now I will wear later on. And I’m like wait a minute am I going to miss being bigger? I can’t really understand why I don’t want to get rid of the old clothes and start fresh. Anyone else have similar feelings?

[catwoman7 10,943]

nope - I love being normal weight and I never, ever want to go back.

[KathyLev 284]

I have to admit - I have a couple beautiful tops and a winter coat that I love ....... I'll miss them when I get smaller !

[MsTeeTee 71]

Omg thank you. I thought I was the only one. Lol

[Spinoza 1,221]

You'll not miss being obese OP I promise you that. I totally understand your doubts pre-surgery - we all experience those and they're totally natural.

If you miss wearing specific items of clothing that you love now I promise you that you'll replace them with smaller ones and never look back.

I wish you all the best tomorrow. Please let us know how it goes xx

[Christina B1128 22]

I am 6 months out from RNY. And I just got rid of my old clothes last week. At first, I was reluctant. And I guess that's what took me so long. But I now see I see it as clearing out old energy and bringing in the new. I thought I would miss them once I bagged them up. My daughter who was helping me kept asking if I would be ok. She said I took a huge plunge. But I am really doing ok. I enjoy buying new and cute smaller clothes now. New me, new energy. Best of luck on your surgery tomorrow!

[Arabesque 6,589]

Nope. Do not miss being big at all. I was very happy to get rid of my large clothes. One of my motivators for the surgery was my size was limiting the clothing & designers I could buy & wear (I loved clothing & fabrics, the designs, etc.) I’d kept clothes at lower sizes so as I lost I was able to wear some of those but at times the weight loss meant I missed my window to wear them or only wore them once. I donated a lot of it.

The only clothing I’ve kept, regardless of size, were special pieces - because of the memories or the clothing designer. I have kept more items that are a size too big - just in case I guess.

I’ve altered clothing in the past but it never really worked. Plus you’ll drop so many sizes it’s impossible. I dropped 6 sizes. You can’t just run in a seam. The whole outfit really needs to be recut.

[maintenanceman 283]

No.

[Smanky 743]

There were clothes that I liked that I never got to wear because as I dropped the weight, I missed the window of time to fit them properly. So in terms of clothes, yeah, I do get that.

HOWEVER. I do not miss one gram of the fat I've lost and the joy of thrifting and looking good in standard size clothing far outstrips any disappointment I ever had at getting too small for old clothes I liked.

[omrhsn 611]

I'm 18 months post op and I've never missed being bigger and I don't think I will ever do. Once you start seeing the scale and non-scale victories after WLS, you won't miss anything before it.Good luck with your surgery and speedy recovery.

The only items that I miss are my wedding suit and ring which I can no longer wear. I got a new suit for our 10th anniversary shoot and replaced my wedding ring with a much smaller one.

Edited July 24, 2023 by omrhsn

[catwoman7 10,943]

if there are certain items you really loved, maybe give those particular items to a friend or relative rather than donate them with rest. I did that...

[NP_WIP 274]

Not missing being bigger, but do understand where it comes from. You are going into something unknown and holding to things that are familiar appeases that fear. We also hold on to clothes we like that we do not fit into because one day we will.

Once you start seeing that you are sizing out of clothes, even the ones you used to love, you will not care. You will find joy in trying new clothes and new sizes.

[BabySpoons 540]

Last week I did an inventory of smaller sized clothing I kept over the years "just in case" someday I could fit into again. I found a few items still with tags that I optimistically bought hoping to wear but never could. I'm looking forward to finally being able to wear them sometime soon. Especially some of my old favorite jeans.

And yeah some of my big clothes are hard to let go of. I lost a good amount of weight in the past and got rid of thinking I was done with them then regained and regretted. But that was during my yo yo dieting phase. Surgery changed that for me. I don't plan on needing them ever again.

Good luck on surgery day!!!!

[DandelionSun 17]

Good luck on your surgery! I’m 6 weeks out and just went through my closet yesterday for the first purge. It felt so GOOD!

We have to remember that many of us have been overweight for a long time, it’s part of who we were. Sometimes our weight can be a shield and the clothes we wear can send certain signals to the world. You may feel a bit vulnerable after as your body changes and that is COMPLETELY normal. Your body changes. How your clothes fit and even how your shoes fit changes!!

You are worth having a healthy body that you can move in and experience life - and there will be changes. Get support here, through your nurses and doctors or even a therapist if you find yourself overly concerned about emotions and feelings that will come up. It is all worth it!! Hugs to you!

[DandelionSun 17]

Good luck on your surgery! I’m 6 weeks out and just went through my closet yesterday for the first purge. It felt so GOOD!

We have to remember that many of us have been overweight for a long time, it’s part of who we were. Sometimes our weight can be a shield and the clothes we wear can send certain signals to the world. You may feel a bit vulnerable after as your body changes and that is COMPLETELY normal. Your body changes. How your clothes fit and even how your shoes fit changes!!

You are worth having a healthy body that you can move in and experience life - and there will be changes. Get support here, through your nurses and doctors or even a therapist if you find yourself overly concerned about emotions and feelings that will come up. It is all worth it!! Hugs to you!