I had surgery August 26th and my spouse has been asking for some type of "loving " for a few days. How long did you wait to make love?

Soooo I noticed that us both laying on our sides worked well. For some reason sex has been kind of painful lately, but we also haven’t been doing it as often.

I think this is a serious and realistic topic. Thank you for addressing it! It’s important to maintain your positive connection with your husband and having sex goes with any healthy relationship. It’s part of life! I say follow what your doctor tells you, expect patience from your husband/wife, and don’t push yourself to uncomfortable limits. Bravo for having the courage to bring this subject to light.

My husband and I waited til week 3 or 4 when my incisions no longer hurt and my stomach didn't feel tightly sewn up inside. We obviously still went easy with it and doggy style worked out great. As silly as this sounds, beforehand, I was afraid that contracting my stomach muscles during orgasm would hurt or damage something but that wasn't the case at all. Hope you and your hubby have figured out what works for you!

It might have been a month, but we shared intimacy other than intercourse too, so we didn't lose that connection.

This is a great topic and question. I would like to know what surgeons usually recommended. Very helpful post.

My surgeon said 3-5 days should be ok. Just keep it on the mild side of things...lol

Wow, 3-5 days sounds really early during the recovery process.

13 hours ago, Jaye W said:

My surgeon said 3-5 days should be ok. Just keep it on the mild side of things...lol

Waited 9 days...no issues at all! I have heard 3 weeks is recommended but everyone heals different.

My doctor said 3 weeks… I had surgery on 8/21/21

so, we are technically at that point tomorrow… however neither of us or stressing about it. I don’t “hurt” but my energy past 8pm is zero!