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Define cheating. If it was a few slip ups it’s probably not a big deal. If you really ignored the instructions I would say yes, simply because you’re not mentally ready. Nothing personal, you have to dig deep and really want this to succeed.

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Define cheating. If it was a few slip ups it’s probably not a big deal. If you really ignored the instructions I would say yes, simply because you’re not mentally ready. Nothing personal, you have to dig deep and really want this to succeed.

Like I will be consistent for 3 days then have a dessert

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Define cheating. If it was a few slip ups it’s probably not a big deal. If you really ignored the instructions I would say yes, simply because you’re not mentally ready. Nothing personal, you have to dig deep and really want this to succeed.
I need therapy for food addiction but im wondering if I should cancel because I don't want to waste money , get on the surgery table and they tell me to go back home

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Just get back on track! You can do this! It’s difficult but you and your health are worth it in the end!!!! 🤗

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I would call your surgeon, be honest, and ask what they think. You don’t want to be cut open unnecessarily if they’re just going to send you home. They may say it’s fine and just stick to it from now until surgery.

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42 minutes ago, anniedebbie said:

I need therapy for food addiction but im wondering if I should cancel because I don't want to waste money , get on the surgery table and they tell me to go back home

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Worse yet, is getting the surgery, losing the weight, and then gaining it all back because you weren't truly ready to make the lifestyle changes for surgery to be successful. One of the most reliable predictors of long term success is the person who emphatically says, "I AM NEVER GOING BACK!" and determines to make all the changes necessary for that to happen. That means not cheating and slipping back into foods that caused the problem in the first place. Some of those foods may be reintroduced in very minimal amounts once maintenance is reached. Until then, they only undermine both the weight loss and the mental changes that need to happen. One of the biggest changes is to make the mental switch from seeing these foods as desirable to seeing them as enemies to your health. This reframing takes a lot of practice and determination, but it has to happen. When you can joyfully choose an apple over a cookie, and not feel deprived, but rather feel empowered, you know you are making the change.

The pre-op diet is hard, no doubt, but it is for a very limited time frame. Others may disagree with me, but it is my opinion that if someone can't stick to 2 weeks of preop, they are not ready for the real challenge of a total transformation of eating and living for the rest of one's life.

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I definitely cheated probably 3-4 days on preop diet not consistently but sporadically. When I first started I was so hungry and I could only have liquids. I looked on the internet and saw other people's drs allowed them veggies and meat. So I had a salad with low fat dressing 2 of those days when it was super hard. One day I had Wendy's Breakfast tho. I had it about 6 days before surgery. The last time I cheated was 4 days before surgery then after that it was complete liquids. After surgery my dr said everything went great and he had no issues. I also lost 17pounds during the preop diet despite my cheating.

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I agree with what everyone else has said - I would definitely call the surgeons office to be sure.

I am also in the pre-op phase with surgery tomorrow. I have NOT cheated, but I can tell you that I've been tempted what feels like a million times (especially when cooking for the family!). This week, I have purposely had food in the house that I shouldn't eat just to make sure that I CAN do this. It's a mind game that truly screws with your head. For you; today is a new day - The first day of the rest of the journey - Treat it as such and jump right back on that wagon. You CAN do this - Don't beat yourself up and keep looking to the future.

When I'm feeling tempted, rather than look at what other surgeons say for pre-op, I've gone online and looked at before and after pictures, come on here to see what the "pros" have done to help my motivation.

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I will tell you this, I was supposed to do a two week liquid diet, did one week and the surgery was cancelled. :( Then, I ate real food, trying to stay low carb, but got kind of pissy over the weekend and ate Italian and Mexican food for dinner...and did NOT do low carb (although I did try to curb my carb enthusiasm!). Then feeling guilty, I called the doctor's office to ask them to give me plenty of time to do the two week pre-op before re-scheduling...AND they had managed to get me in ON THE ORIGINAL DATE at a surgery clinic (as opposed to a hospital). I came clean and they said not to worry about it, just get back on the wagon. My surgeon said my pre-op was fine.

Now, does that mean it will be okay for you? I think you need to talk to your surgeon and let him know. Everyone (sleevers and surgeons) is different and my experience could vary wildly from yours. And I think you need to make sure that your head is in the right place...as you could very easily only eat dessert after surgery, but you will not get the outcome you desire!

Good luck!!

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15 hours ago, anniedebbie said:

I need therapy for food addiction emoji30.png but im wondering if I should cancel because I don't want to waste money , get on the surgery table and they tell me to go back home

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I’d get therapy first, surgery doesn’t fix addiction. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that issue.

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On 8/17/2020 at 4:13 PM, AZhiker said:

Worse yet, is getting the surgery, losing the weight, and then gaining it all back because you weren't truly ready to make the lifestyle changes for surgery to be successful. One of the most reliable predictors of long term success is the person who emphatically says, "I AM NEVER GOING BACK!" and determines to make all the changes necessary for that to happen. That means not cheating and slipping back into foods that caused the problem in the first place. Some of those foods may be reintroduced in very minimal amounts once maintenance is reached. Until then, they only undermine both the weight loss and the mental changes that need to happen. One of the biggest changes is to make the mental switch from seeing these foods as desirable to seeing them as enemies to your health. This reframing takes a lot of practice and determination, but it has to happen. When you can joyfully choose an apple over a cookie, and not feel deprived, but rather feel empowered, you know you are making the change.

The pre-op diet is hard, no doubt, but it is for a very limited time frame. Others may disagree with me, but it is my opinion that if someone can't stick to 2 weeks of preop, they are not ready for the real challenge of a total transformation of eating and living for the rest of one's life.

Hm i dont agree with this i have seen several successful vlogs on youtube who do have slip ups. To err is human and being perfectionist is not really reasonable. I think everyone does their best. This person made a good first step by talking about it

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