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I was banded 2 months ago. I have good restriction @ 2.3cc's and I am slowly losing. I have no regrets and no complications. However, eating has become a burden and there is no joy in it anymore. On one hand i am saddened about this and, on the other hand, I feel OK (not happy, but OK) because for the 1st time I am not overeating. I think what is really going on for me is that food was my ONLY joy and pleasure in my life. Now, I am faced with having to expand my world and find new things that give me pleasure. I know this is a good thing but it is not easy right now. It feels good to have this part of my life under control but I am also bummed at the same time.

Can anyone relate?

:phanvan

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Soon you will find more joy and pleasures in your life because you'll look and feel better. When you eat to live instead of living to eat, you will enjoy it more.

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.It's sort of weird how much time was occupied in preBand days, by eating, thinking about eating, recovering from overeating, getting ready to go eat, waiting in line to eat, planning on what to overeat next...

as a newbie does this happen over time?

I still found myself thinking about food and eating as much as I did preband and it is something I want to stop

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Hey umm honestly I sometimes forget to eat, and if you knew me in real life you still wouldn't believe it. And another HUGE thing i've noticed is that I ENJOY eating. I used to gobble everything down and finish an entire plate of spaggetti in 1:30 sec flat ( timed it ) and okay so ya that was wierd lol haaha...but its true and they werent your'e average plate size either. Anyways..what I was saying is that...although i've been eating lots and lots all my life..i've only STARTED tasting the food and it is GREAT. ..so every time you take a bite of something try to clear your mind for a second..and savor the delicious flavors that come from all the food on this earth. I still havent gotten to solid food's yet..and i'm excited at the idea of having these OLD yet brand new tastes in my mouth. lol anywho..hope this gives you a new perspective on things :P cya :girl_hug::):)

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I was banded in apri 07, do not love to eat anymre ... honetly i gothe whole day and i forget to eat... My doctor keeps getting on to me to eat more but i am just not hungryI know how you feel... I also Fell like iti a chore to eat... i woul rather not .... i am own 61 lbs since apil I have about 30 more to go .... But darn I feel great!!!!

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I'm finding it hard too, I can't eat at fast food stops anymore at all....even if I get the healthy foods...I get sick...my job requires me to travel so I live on Low Carb Slim Fast ...and then I seem to get hungry quicker ...so I guess it time for a fill...I just don't like even trying to eat out anymore.....lol

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I still love eating - maybe my restriction isn't great? I find that I dont like eating out very much because of the unknown, the timing, eating slower and less than everyone else- I don't avoid it but it used to be my favorite thing. Now I love to cook with fresh ingredients and plan what I am eating for each meal - that is a major change for me.

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Ya you might need to check on a flll.. I have only had one so far ... I get hungry before the Tom and I eat alot.... All the other times I am never hungry I eat because I know that I have to eat to stay alive... It is weird... I also do vomit sometimes ,.. I work in a fast food restaurant and it is very hard for me to find anything oto eat there... Even the stuff that they say is healty.... I try to be carefull what I eat cause I cant stand the sick feeling... it feels like I cant breathe and I have ot vomit I try not to... Keep going ... Check on afill you might need it .... how many have you had so far?

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