240lbs down and still single

[Dana1987 7]

Im Dana had sleeve surgery April 2018 and am having the Duodenal Switch January 22nd 2020. I have lost 240lbs and still can't find a decent person to date. I'm awesome lol I don't really think I have any MAJOR character flaws...im thinking maybe it is my excess skin? It is awful 

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[AJ Tylo 1,395]

I do not think a true guy would judge based on skin or other reasons, Get out more get involved more, As a single guy i meet partners all the time on airplanes, church, Fishing, or just hanging out with friends.

Nothing wrong with you making the first move.

[10SDIVA56 2]

You look awesome! Get out and live life the right guy will present themselves when it’s the right time.

[catwoman7 8,474]

I can't see your excess skin - your clothes hide it well - so I doubt that's the reason. No one would know it's there when you have your clothes on, and presumably when guys first see you you're dressed! It sometimes takes awhile to find partners once you're out of school...keep looking!

[MarvelGirl25 2,168]

You look amazingggg and you're so pretty! Its all about timing. The right guy will come along. You cant even see your excess skin.

And 240 lb weight loss?!? WOW. How long did it take you? Congrats!

[GreenTealael 23,287]

2 hours ago, Dana1987 said:

Im Dana had sleeve surgery April 2018 and am having the Duodenal Switch January 22nd 2020. I have lost 240lbs and still can't find a decent person to date. I'm awesome lol I don't really think I have any MAJOR character flaws...im thinking maybe it is my excess skin? It is awful

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It may just be the people you have encountered are not right for you ❤

Good Luck 💚

[FluffyChix 17,400]

Wait! Is "partners" the new name for "dates?" Or is it the new name for hook-ups? Inquiring minds and all...

[AJ Tylo 1,395]

11 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

Wait! Is "partners" the new name for "dates?" Or is it the new name for hook-ups? Inquiring minds and all...

that is my coined term, Remember i am the one who is setting up the WLS Manson like compound - except no killing or drugs! A better is Friends with privileges! But you have to have the right friends who are cool with My Kids first and my company second, then i will do social! Was married for 22 years that was long eneogh - Variety and no drama is the new plan

[Jazzy1125 1,007]

54 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

Wait! Is "partners" the new name for "dates?" Or is it the new name for hook-ups? Inquiring minds and all...

LOL this totally made me chuckle... But i agree with most... get out more. We are so used to being heavy and staying home all the time that now that we are smaller, getting out seems out of the norm. We are not going to meet anybody going to work and going home everyday and no where else.

[Chardonnay40 153]

21 hours ago, Jazzy1125 said:

LOL this totally made me chuckle... But i agree with most... get out more. We are so used to being heavy and staying home all the time that now that we are smaller, getting out seems out of the norm. We are not going to meet anybody going to work and going home everyday and no where else.

I created a meetup just for this reason. It did it last year when I started this journey. Granted it is a female meetup but it gets me out of the house, not thinking about food (but wine lol), and not thinking about being single. There is a good chance I can meet someone in person (hot man) at one of our events. Also since surgery I have started planning more healthy evens like Salsa dance lessons, hiking. etc.

I have also made actual friends from this meetup who are now supporting me post surgery. I am not going to lie it was challenging to attend my own Meetup lol. I am not a social butterfly as I am introverted but getting off the couch will help me keep this weight off FOR Good!

[Jazzy1125 1,007]

On 1/8/2020 at 1:49 PM, Chardonnay40 said:

I created a meetup just for this reason. It did it last year when I started this journey. Granted it is a female meetup but it gets me out of the house, not thinking about food (but wine lol), and not thinking about being single. There is a good chance I can meet someone in person (hot man) at one of our events. Also since surgery I have started planning more healthy evens like Salsa dance lessons, hiking. etc.

I have also made actual friends from this meetup who are now supporting me post surgery. I am not going to lie it was challenging to attend my own Meetup lol. I am not a social butterfly as I am introverted but getting off the couch will help me keep this weight off FOR Good!

Awesome! i love dancing. I did ballroom dancing for the last year and a half. I just recently stopped because i have plastics on the table for this year and ballroom hobby can be quite expensive. LOL. I needed to reallocate my funds for this year.. but after surgeries.. watch out dance floor i will be back!

[kg2519 8]

On 01/08/2020 at 13:49, Chardonnay40 said:

I created a meetup just for this reason. It did it last year when I started this journey. Granted it is a female meetup but it gets me out of the house, not thinking about food (but wine lol), and not thinking about being single. There is a good chance I can meet someone in person (hot man) at one of our events. Also since surgery I have started planning more healthy evens like Salsa dance lessons, hiking. etc.

I have also made actual friends from this meetup who are now supporting me post surgery. I am not going to lie it was challenging to attend my own Meetup lol. I am not a social butterfly as I am introverted but getting off the couch will help me keep this weight off FOR Good!

I’ve always wanted to do one of those but have been scared for many reason lol.

[BigJay79 9]

Im Dana had sleeve surgery April 2018 and am having the Duodenal Switch January 22nd 2020. I have lost 240lbs and still can't find a decent person to date. I'm awesome lol I don't really think I have any MAJOR character flaws...im thinking maybe it is my excess skin? It is awful
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nice to meet u Dana. You look amazing!!;

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[valentinedwv 3]

On 1/7/2020 at 8:52 AM, Dana1987 said:

Im Dana had sleeve surgery April 2018 and am having the Duodenal Switch January 22nd 2020. I have lost 240lbs and still can't find a decent person to date. I'm awesome lol I don't really think I have any MAJOR character flaws...im thinking maybe it is my excess skin? It is awful

It's not you, but those guys you may feel are ignoring you, may be shy, unsure.
Just look at you, they think you are out of their league

Always remember a neighbor going "I thought you did not like me"... me "no, just shy and unsure."

So, you might need to strike up a conversation, say see you at the next event? or even do 'aren't you gonna ask me for my number?"
And hell this pandemic sucks for us shy people who need to hide a little bit in a group even..