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I am about 2 1/2 months out and have lost 35lbs. 18 of the was lost by 2 weeks post op. I know I am not supposed to compare myself to others journey but it is becoming hard to not feel like a failure. If I didn’t start at such a high weight I don’t know if I would still feel the same. I did call the nutritionist and they just verified the basics...water, Protein, exercise,etc.... and told me to track and maybe increase my food intake. Here are my stats:

HW: 392
SW: 347
CW: 312
GW:180

I am trying to keep my mind from going to this negative place but getting so down on myself. In my head I would be below 300 by 3 months out and it looks like that is not going to happen. I have a conference and plane ride the first week in January that I was hoping to fit much better in plane seats for.

Any one out there as heavy as me and lost this slow and still made it to goal? I love what this surgery has done for my ability to conquer my eating addiction but don’t understand why the weight is not falling off when I am eating so little. I just need to get over the pace this is happening for me and just know it WILL happen if I stay the course. It just makes it harder to beat the head games when success is so much slower than expected. I need to stay strong and need sone help!

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What has been your caloric intake per day, for the past 7 days ?

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It is head games. Don't beat yourself up. You're doing great!! Stick with the program and it will come off. Try not to weigh yourself everyday.

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yep. Started at 373. Lost 57 lbs through the insurance-required six-month supervised diet and two-week pre-surgery liquid diet. Weighed 316 the morning of surgery. At 2.5 months out (where you are), I weighed 282. So in the first 2.5 months post-op, I'd lost 34 lbs. I'd lost 100% of my excess weight by 20 months out. Still at a normal BMI.

You know what to do and what not to do. Do follow your surgeon's plan to a T. Do not compare yourself to others.

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17 minutes ago, Fatboyslim1 said:

What has been your caloric intake per day, for the past 7 days ?

I was probably at 600-800 a day but after talking with the nutritionist I am now at 1000 (1200 for exercise days). This seemed to help for a few days and now I am stalled out again. I have lost .5 lbs in the last 7 days. Trying to increase me activity to give myself a boost and definitely have more energy.

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21 minutes ago, catwoman7 said:

yep. Started at 373. Lost 57 lbs through the insurance-required six-month supervised diet and two-week pre-surgery liquid diet. Weighed 316 the morning of surgery. At 2.5 months out (where you are), I weighed 282. So in the first 2.5 months post-op, I'd lost 34 lbs. I'd lost 100% of my excess weight by 20 months out. Still at a normal BMI.

You know what to do and what not to do. Do follow your surgeon's plan to a T. Do not compare yourself to others.

Thank you so much for this! I needed to hear this success story. You rock! Trying to think positive thoughts like “ slower may be better long term”...” maybe people won’t think I am dying because I am not losing weight so fast😀”...”maybe my body will have time to adjust and help with my saggy skin”... searching for all the positives so I don’t go off track. The good news is that I cannot eat to soothe myself like in the past. It is such a strange transition to have to finally face this issue and not have an easy way out. That I am thankful for, every day. Thanks again and congrats to you on your success! I cannot wait to be 20 months out and look back on this post and laugh at myself.

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30 minutes ago, Dances with Carbs said:

It is head games. Don't beat yourself up. You're doing great!! Stick with the program and it will come off. Try not to weigh yourself everyday.

Thank you very much! The head games are for real and I will push through. This change is forever and I want it to be a success.

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2 hours ago, lingre said:

I am about 2 1/2 months out and have lost 35lbs. 18 of the was lost by 2 weeks post op. I know I am not supposed to compare myself to others journey but it is becoming hard to not feel like a failure. If I didn’t start at such a high weight I don’t know if I would still feel the same. I did call the nutritionist and they just verified the basics...water, Protein, exercise,etc.... and told me to track and maybe increase my food intake. Here are my stats:

HW: 392
SW: 347
CW: 312
GW:180

I am trying to keep my mind from going to this negative place but getting so down on myself. In my head I would be below 300 by 3 months out and it looks like that is not going to happen. I have a conference and plane ride the first week in January that I was hoping to fit much better in plane seats for.

Any one out there as heavy as me and lost this slow and still made it to goal? I love what this surgery has done for my ability to conquer my eating addiction but don’t understand why the weight is not falling off when I am eating so little. I just need to get over the pace this is happening for me and just know it WILL happen if I stay the course. It just makes it harder to beat the head games when success is so much slower than expected. I need to stay strong and need sone help!

I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one. I too am barely eating and I walk on my treadmill every day. I know from having the Lapband surgery 9 years ago, that losing slow is what my body does. They weight stays off. Even though I did gain weight, it wasn't everything that I lost. While I have been discouraged by the scale, I realized this morning that I need to stop looking at it because my body is shaping back up but differently.

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yep. Started at 373. Lost 57 lbs through the insurance-required six-month supervised diet and two-week pre-surgery liquid diet. Weighed 316 the morning of surgery. At 2.5 months out (where you are), I weighed 282. So in the first 2.5 months post-op, I'd lost 34 lbs. I'd lost 100% of my excess weight by 20 months out. Still at a normal BMI.
You know what to do and what not to do. Do follow your surgeon's plan to a T. Do not compare yourself to others.
I can read this every day catwoman!! Thanks so much for the hope and encouragement! For both the OP and I and probably many others!!![emoji176][emoji176][emoji176]

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@lingre I had my surgery the same day as you and am losing slowly. This board has helped (and hurt) saw someone posted they had lost 100 in 4 months. wow....that got me down because with pre-op and surgery on Oct 1 i'm only down 52. hang in there and PM me if you need.

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100 lbs in four months is highly unusual. Either that person started out at an extremely high BMI, or they're an outlier.

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