Can we just be for real ???

[november11 970]

1 hour ago, JAKE H said:

if im being honest its definitely true for me. I had the same girl since high school show interest in me, and i would never allow her in close to me because i didnt feel i was good enough for her. (thats my own ****). i got the surgery and i finally had the confidence to take her out because of the surgery. and now we are dating and im happier then ever. but i would have never before because i didnt feel enough, even tho she constantly tells me shes not with me because of the weight loss. so yeah i had this surgery to get healthy, but god damn it i wanted to look good too.

yessss !!!! I get it …… and btw you do look good.

[JAKE H 1,230]

thank you!!!

[summerset 5,261]

3 hours ago, november11 said:

But can we just be for real and say We want to look good and sexy and more attractive in our and other's eyes... true or not ?

Unfortunately we aren't really allowed to voice that we want to look good as well in addition to being healthy. That how we look really bothers us just as our health issues bother us. Same with plastics.

Why?

Insurance issues.

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[BayougirlMrsS 3,933]

Raises hand and says Yes.... One of my main motivations was to look better. I was in a very long marriage and we would go a year with having sex 1-2x's. I thought, if only i could lose the weight he would find me more attractive and life would be great. So in 2009 I got banded, lost 89lbs (100 but to hard to maintain). Went from 232 to 143. But instead of getting better my marriage fell even more apart. He couldn't handle the attention i was getting. And to be honest, it was intoxicating.... i loved it. We divorced in 2017 after 26 years. Fast forward.... 2017, flu/stomach bug = slipped band. Fast forward Aug. 2019 173.5lbs..... Sleeve. Todays weight 144.4

Starting to feel sexy again. Sept. 2019 remarried and feeling great..... bring on 52 years old... i'm ready

[november11 970]

niceeeeee!!

[Caltania 218]

5 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

Following 💙 Cant wait to see responses

But sadly for me it's false. I promise it was not my purpose. So much so that I am still physically disgusted by positive change in attention pre vs. post from others. I on the other hand thought myself to look fine either way 😂

This! Most of the positive comments from people in my life are well-intentioned, but I still don't want the extra attention... And also, oddly enough, I wasn't mentally ready to have the surgery until I was comfortable with the way I looked before I started losing weight! I worry I won't like my post-op body as much as my pre-op body...

[Caltania 218]

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[Caltania 218]

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[NYJenn 1,463]

My health was my #1 concern, but of course looking good is a great reward

[Suzagrace9 3]

While yes I want to look better, I have enough health issues that I need to have this surgery. My primary doctor asked me to take a leap of faith. He has been recommending this surgery for a couple years. It took me this long to realize I need to do it.

[catwoman7 10,981]

at 60 years old, nope. As someone else said, that ship sailed awhile ago. But I was tired of people looking at me like I was a freak, so I guess in that respect it's true. But I mostly did it for health reasons.

[HappyHikerGal 132]

7 hours ago, JRT Mom said:

But can we just be for real and say We want to look good and sexy and more attractive in our and other's eyes...

Absolutely part of the whole fantastic list of positives in my mind! While the movement, comfort, confidence, "fitting" in places, and health benefits top my list, looking nice in clothes (especially 2nd hand clothes!) is going to be wonderful, if I'm so blessed to get to a healthy weight.

[AggiG 176]

One of my reasons, but my health was the biggest reason.

[steph92000 4]

november11 I am totally not gonna lie, I want to have my old pre weight body back! I want to look sexy for my husband and I want to look good just for me. The health is a big issue for me, but I cant wait to get into some really great clothes that I have. If I am going to go through all of this work and diet, Id like as many positives reasons as possible and if looking good is on the list, I am good with it!

[Sheribear68 3,200]

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