Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!
$99 Yearly Supply Alert! 🎉 "1 per Day!" Bariatric Multivitamins

July 9th 2019 is the BIG day!

Jennifer P

Recommended Posts

Jennifer P    10

Jennifer P
Posted

Hi! I’m brand new here! I’m having a VSG on July 9th and my husband is completely NOT supportive and keeps telling me I’ll regret it. I’m only 5 feet and 1 inch and weigh 215 and I am SO ready for this! Any advice? Thanks so much!

Jennifer

GreenTealael and Healthy_life2 reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

GradyCat    3,697

GradyCat
Posted

Why isn't he supportive? That's a shame. You need a good support system. My husband has been nothing but wonderful. Are you on your two week pre-surgery diet now? Some doctors have it restricted calorie, some have it liquid for two weeks prior to surgery. Be sure to comply with whatever your surgeon told you so that your liver isn't fatty. Hang in there, you can do this, we'll support you here in this forum. Good luck with your WLS journey. Take care.

GreenTealael reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

NYJenn    1,464

NYJenn
Posted

Is he overweight?

GreenTealael reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Healthy_life2    8,330

Healthy_life2
Posted

2 hours ago, GradyCat said:

Why isn't he supportive? That's a shame. You need a good support system. My husband has been nothing but wonderful. Are you on your two week pre-surgery diet now? Some doctors have it restricted calorie, some have it liquid for two weeks prior to surgery. Be sure to comply with whatever your surgeon told you so that your liver isn't fatty. Hang in there, you can do this, we'll support you here in this forum. Good luck with your WLS journey. Take care.

40 minutes ago, Jennifer P said:

My dr put me on NO preppy diet...anyone else have this?

I support your decision 100%. I didn’t have the pre op liver shrinking diet. Just liquids the day before and no eating the day of surgery.

Wow, I always wonder why anyone would not support getting heathy and living longer. Is he afraid of the risks? Or Is it his own insecurities? does he think that you are going to leave him once you lose weight?

Feel free to show him my before and after. Five year's out and I have no regret.

5 years.jpg

GreenTealael and GradyCat reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

GreenTealael    25,571

GreenTealael
Posted

Congratulations on your decision 🙌

No clue why he is not supportive but that's ok as long as he doesn't stand in your way 👌

Good Luck 🏆

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Jennifer P    10

Jennifer P
Posted

So I guess he just doesn't agree with the decision (he claims he's supportive, but I feel like he should be happy for me). Something I neglected to mention is that we are going through a divorce so I suppose this could have something to do with it, but he doesn't want the divorce, so wouldn't you think he'd be supportive? He still plans to take care of me when I come out of the hospital though so he's not that bad a guy! :) I'm SO excited for the surgery that I went out and bought scrapbooking materials today and started a scrapbook for my journey. So far it has before pictures and a day for a surgery picture too. I will have plenty of space for the "after" pictures! :)

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Frustr8    7,886

Frustr8
Posted

And you seem to be more willing to undergo it all than he is to join in to it or even participate. A scrapbook is an excellent idea, be sure to take pictures and measure yourself all over, you will Never be that size again. I still cry, for I did not do it, I have no real point of reference, I have a picture of me at my highest weight when I am all wired up for my sleep Apnea testing, one or 2 when I was so sick at my re-hospitalization, when they cut into my upper left arm and installed a PICC line so I could be fed 12 hours a day, to give my beleaguered GI system 3 month opportunity to heal its ulcers, and I was sickly bad looking. And then there is one from April when I had rotator cuff surgery, and fell 2 days later in parking lot at J&F Services turning in paperwork. BUT NOTHING from the wonderful Day of Days when my life changed, when I commited to a future of Better Health. Oh I was. in a State of Incredible Peace, oh I knew it was the right surgery for me, at the right time, with the best most wonderful surgeon, and for the right reasons. And if I haven't recovered perfectly, even if I don't know all the rest of my story, I regret not having my photo documentation- now I never can or will have it. Oh Life Does Go On, tedious as it can be but no pictures. OMG I am crying again, I still feel the bitter loss.
And I do wish you success with your life, maybe you will end up friends if you no more can remain a 💑 couple. And keep us informed as it all unfolds, okay?

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Go To Topic Listing General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    Bariatric Forums

    For Patients

    Health Professionals

    Search Surgeons

    Bariatric Surgeons: Want to research a weight loss surgery surgeon? Enter their last name below to start!

    ×