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I am new to this process. I have had 2 appointments with my primary and will meet with my Bariatric surgeon next month. I feel so defeated with trying to loose weight. Any advice?

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Welcome! This site has been very helpful to me. My advice would be to take advantage of the insurance required diet to help change your habits before surgery. When I was on mine I got discouraged because I would lose then gain some pounds for no reason then I would binge. Keep changing your habits before surgery even if you don’t see results on the scale because after surgery the weight will come off. Good luck! The process goes quicker than you think.

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The best way to change habits is one at a time. Keep in mind it takes 3 weeks to make a habit and 3 days to break a habit. Work on changing step by step so you are prepared for when surgery time gets here. If you try to change all at once your will set yourself up for failure.

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Welcome!!! I'm so excited to see you've decided to pursue options in regards to weight loss and surgery!

I know how upsetting weight loss (or the lack thereof) can be! I think everyone here can relate to that, that's why we chose surgery!!

One of the first things I did was look at all the food I was restricting myself from eating, all the "bad" foods and think about why they were bad for me and why I binged on them anyway. What I came away with was that I was ashamed of wanting them, so I would only eat them when I was alone. It took a serious, moral inventory of myself where I tried to figure out my cravings and WHY I want those things before I even thought about dieting again. This is NOT something that you can quit, this is the first step to the rest of your life!

The second thing was I looked at all those "bad" foods and decided they weren't bad, I wasn't bad for wanting them, but that they didn't serve the purpose I was currently using food for. Everyone has binged ice cream when they're sad, expecting yourself to never react like that again is unrealistic. But severing that shame tied to it, that you haven't failed because you ate a slice of pizza at a birthday party, is really what's helped keep me on track.

If you need ANYTHING please message me!

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Took Vitamin D, Vitamin A and my prenatal Vitamin, so ordered by my team because it does contain Iron along with a lot of other good things and minerals. Well I did have some hair thinning, hard to tell because I'm Red-geaded and we naturally have the fewest hairs per square inch. What I noticed was I lost my fringe of bangs, so yesterday I had Shelia, my cosmotological consultant, okay beautician give me an updated DA, same style I wore at 15 except I don't have the spiked out ducktail in the backm Easy-peasy to take care of, and I started on hair,nail skin Vitamins at 3 months, got special permission to use gummie, those are usually 1st ingredient concentrated fruit juice or corn Syrup, and that's going to feed the sugar addiction you're trying to kill. But I usually operate at a caloric deficiency, mine are fruit juice instead of corn syrup or sugar and the capsules I was using first gave me indigestion and refkux, yeah Bypassers are not supposed to reflux, but it built up gas or something and up the burning sensation came, and I had enough GERD reflux,before surgery to diagnose it myself.
And if I taste even a miniscule,amount,of ice cream, Cookies pies or candy, it literally. sickens me, sniched a jelly bean from the Easter basket I gave Tomkitten who is in his 30s, long past needing one. I used to,❤the spicey ones more than the funky*'junky fruit- tasting ones . So I got out a cinnamon one, chewed and swollowed. And up it came, with a vengeance, worse than the Terminator! Oops I shan't repeat that mistake!

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32 minutes ago, Frustr8 said:

Took Vitamin D, Vitamin A and my prenatal Vitamin, so ordered by my team because it does contain Iron along with a lot of other good things and minerals. Well I did have some hair thinning, hard to tell because I'm Red-geaded and we naturally have the fewest hairs per square inch. What I noticed was I lost my fringe of bangs, so yesterday I had Shelia, my cosmotological consultant, okay beautician give me an updated DA, same style I wore at 15 except I don't have the spiked out ducktail in the backm Easy-peasy to take care of, and I started on hair, nail skin Vitamins at 3 months, got special permission to use gummie, those are usually 1st ingredient concentrated fruit juice or corn Syrup, and that's going to feed the sugar addiction you're trying to kill. But I usually operate at a caloric deficiency, mine are fruit juice instead of corn Syrup or sugar and the capsules I was using first gave me indigestion and refkux, yeah Bypassers are not supposed to reflux, but it built up gas or something and up the burning sensation came, and I had enough GERD reflux,before surgery to diagnose it myself.
And if I taste even a miniscule,amount,of ice cream, Cookies pies or candy, it literally. sickens me, sniched a jelly bean from the Easter basket I gave Tomkitten who is in his 30s, long past needing one. I used to,❤the spicey ones more than the funky*'junky fruit- tasting ones . So I got out a cinnamon one, chewed and swollowed. And up it came, with a vengeance, worse than the Terminator! Oops I shan't repeat that mistake!

@Frustr8, will you please consider creating your own thread where you can share your journey? You can then update that thread with your progress, and anything else you wish to share. It will help keep threads such as this one, on topic and relevant to the OP.

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[mention=335760]Frustr8[/mention], will you please consider creating your own thread where you can share your journey? You can then update that thread with your progress, and anything else you wish to share. It will help keep threads such as this one, on topic and relevant to the OP.
Hi there. I think Frustr8 was trying to answer your questions about any advice we could give you and Multivitamins for Hair loss.
She told you that:
-She takes Vitamins D, A and Prenatals with Iron
-She believes she experienced some hair loss but it's hard to tell since red heads traditionally have less hair
-With the minor hair loss she did experience, it was isolated to her bangs and was a simple fix that her hairdresser solved by giving her one of those haircuts she had when she was young
-At around 3 months, she incorporated hair, skin and nails vitamins into her regimen which seems to help fight hair loss
-She was having a difficult time swallowing capsules and even though she had by-pass, they gave her really bad acid reflux which is typically only an issue for those that opted for sleeve so her Dr. approved a Multivitamin in a Gummy form instead. Be careful with those and read the ingredients as many contain corn Syrup and processed sugars which is not allowed after surgery since it can lead to "dumping" and get you back to being sugar-addicted which leads to weight gain. Go for gummies that are 100% fruit juice based instead
-She now notices that she can no longer even tolerate the Desserts and sweets that she used to love. She had a bit of a jelly bean this past Easter and vomited immediately.

She was trying to be helpful and offer you some advice, insight, tips, that she noticed from her own experiences that could be helpful to you. Like you asked.



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