Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Any regrets with RNY?



Recommended Posts

My surgery is on April 29th, and there are things that I've already cut out of my life, sweets, coke zero, coffee etc. One thing I promise myself is to never compare my goals and accomplishments to others. We have to be honest with ourselves and understand that weigh-loss surgery is a tool and not a miracle.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

no regrets at all. I'd go back and have it done every year if I had to. Best decision ever!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

On 3/10/2019 at 8:04 AM, AEdoesRnY said:

So, not to comment on my own vanity photos BUT I’ve been so mired in a monster plateau for like 3-4+ weeks and it’s been easy to stop realizing how much progress I’ve really made. So, I’m going to say wow, what a difference!!

I've been stuck at a plateau for the past 2.5 weeks too. It's frustrating as anything, but I look in the mirror some mornings and realise that I'm now pretty close to my goal and am actually down 70 lbs. Like you I started at a size 24 and am now in a 14/16 depending on where I get my clothes.

After 6 months and 2 days I can still say no regrets at all. The reason I chose the bypass rather than sleeve is that my surgeon explained that the bypass is reversible if needed where the sleeve is not. With bypass they don't actually remove anything but sleeve cuts off part of your stomach and throws it away. Not that I plan to ever have a reversal, but the option is there if I do change my mind years from now.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I got the gastric bypass about 3 weeks ago. I regret everything!! I wish I never did it. My body has changed to the worse. I haven’t lost weight but I’m constantly in pain. I have to go to the doctor every six month for the rest of my life because my body doesn’t reproduce the nutrition it needs anymore. I’m worried for my life once I get older. When I won’t be able to keep up with the Vitamins. It’s a lot to think about. I wish I had someone talking some good sense in me.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

On 03/28/2019 at 06:42, bOrii305 said:

I got the gastric bypass about 3 weeks ago. I regret everything!! I wish I never did it. My body has changed to the worse. I haven’t lost weight but I’m constantly in pain. I have to go to the doctor every six month for the rest of my life because my body doesn’t reproduce the nutrition it needs anymore. I’m worried for my life once I get older. When I won’t be able to keep up with the Vitamins. It’s a lot to think about. I wish I had someone talking some good sense in me.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way right now. The first few weeks after surgery are really hard - I found it to be a super emotional time during which I couldn’t even rely on my old friend food to help me cope.

For me, and for many others, the first few weeks were the hardest but once over the hump my emotions evened out and my body had healed more from surgery and was able to start losing. I hope you experience a similar upswing and that you keep your mind open to it being possible.

Best of luck and we’re here for you if you need support during the challenging first few weeks post surgery! 💖💖💖

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

On 03/28/2019 at 06:42, bOrii305 said:

I got the gastric bypass about 3 weeks ago. I regret everything!! I wish I never did it. My body has changed to the worse. I haven’t lost weight but I’m constantly in pain. I have to go to the doctor every six month for the rest of my life because my body doesn’t reproduce the nutrition it needs anymore. I’m worried for my life once I get older. When I won’t be able to keep up with the Vitamins. It’s a lot to think about. I wish I had someone talking some good sense in me.
I felt the same way after surgery and from my research it is a very common feeling post op. Kind of the “can’t turn back its for life and trying to reverse a life time of eating habits” emotion is a very common post here. I can tell you that for the VAST majority things work fine and in a couple short months you will feel totally different about the surgery. I was totally worried about the getting older thing as well and not sure how old you are, but IMO there are 20+ years of older people who will get there before me and figure it out.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

@AnnieD78 how are you doing? I’m curious what your thoughts are sleeve vs bypass and whether additional questions/concerns/anxieties have come up. I know the waiting period before surgery was FILLED with millions of questions and worries every day, so I wanted to see how you are doing and if we could help support you as you’re in the waiting game!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

@AEdoesRnY I’m doing okay. I just had my psych evaluation today and it was fine. I have a few more appointments left before they can submit to insurance. I need to get moving on weight loss though. This week has been a bit of a disaster. My mom passed away quite suddenly on Sunday night, after a 7 year battle with Alzheimer’s disease. I’ve pretty much thrown in the towel on trying to stay on the diet plan, which I know is NOT the right thing to do.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I regretted my sleeve for probably the first month. I’m getting bypass Thursday and it scares me but the longitudinal studies show good results. I’m getting it for severe GERD. I just worry my issues swallowing could get worse. We’ll see!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

On 03/29/2019 at 13:14, AnnieD78 said:

@AEdoesRnY I’m doing okay. I just had my psych evaluation today and it was fine. I have a few more appointments left before they can submit to insurance. I need to get moving on weight loss though. This week has been a bit of a disaster. My mom passed away quite suddenly on Sunday night, after a 7 year battle with Alzheimer’s disease. I’ve pretty much thrown in the towel on trying to stay on the diet plan, which I know is NOT the right thing to do.
I’m so sorry for your loss, what a challenging thing to deal with - I hope you are holding up okay and giving yourself some care and love right now. I completely understand why you turned to food, and I applaud your decision to try to take a different route. I’m going through a divorce right now and I definitely turned to food more than I should have lately, but have been turning in around the last few weeks. I just started intermittent fasting which I’ve been loving, but I think it would be really hard presurgery...do you have an amount you have to lose to qualify for surgery?

Do you like the person who did your evaluation? I ended up continuing to see the person who did mine for the last year and it’s been a wonderful support/growth/reflection tool!

Sending you thoughts and hugs!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

And I'm sending love and prayers to you also! My RnY journey has been anything but picture- perfect, have frequent choruses of "Is that all there is?" but hoping my doctors are not lying to me, that there is a final victory ahead. And you have had so much in a short time it is a Wonder you are not standing out in the middle of the road going Whaaat? but hope life finally levels off and you can find some joy in all that has happened. Remember we are here, we do understand, if we can give you strength, we will!! You are strong, although you probably find that hard to believe now. 😜❤❤😜

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Annie! I am 3 and a half years post RNY. When I first went to my surgeon, I was SURE that I wanted to get the sleeve over bypass, but he convinced me to do the RNY. Fortunately for me, almost as soon as my insurance approved me for surgery, my surgeon had a cancellation and there was less than 30 days between that first appointment and my surgery so I had little time to be anxious. This far out, I've maintained my weight loss (over 140 pounds) and feel fantastic! My only regret is that I didn't do this sooner! It was not easy...neither surgery is, but I trusted my surgeon and couldn't be happier.

Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I’m preparing for a sleeve to bypass revision due to GERD next Thursday. That aside, I believe stats show that bypass and sleeve patients lose the same average % of excess weight but bypass patients lose it faster. I liked sleeve because it was less intrusive but it clearly didn’t work for me.
I would like to know how you do.
I am only 4.5 months out from my sleeve but I have been dealing with gerdzilla. Not fun. I thought I would be ok because I never had issues with reflux at all before surgery. I had never even had heartburn [emoji20] now I get it almost daily.

Sent from my Pixel 3 XL using BariatricPal mobile app

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×