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I am 3 months post op and I too was upset that I could no longer eat my fave foods. I went through a period about 6 -9 weeks post op where I ate a lot of sugar, ice cream, chocolate, cake, Cookies etc. and then gradually I settled down. I no longer crave the sugar and what used to be my fave foods. I now have new fave foods and I’m developing healthy eating habits. Your taste buds change but I think it’s more a mental thing rather than a physiological thing. I don’t know what the science is behind it. Hang in there. You’ll find a happy place soon.
@brassapple thank you for sharing. It's definitely a mental thing for me right now. I sure hope I can push through this soon.
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I’m almost five weeks out and I’m having the first ‘down’ moments. I made a bariatric recipe for dinner and had the smallest portion and yet I puked it right up 🤮 I’m tired of not eating. I’m tired of chest pain. I’m tired of throwing up. I want coffee [emoji477]️ I’m tired of not being able to chug Water for heavens sake[emoji844] agh .... I think I’m pushing myself and just need to go back to the basics. I just want to be on the other side of this, but I know I have to do the work. [emoji24][emoji24][emoji24]
@sassysleever I knew the journey would be hard but I guess I didn't fully anticipate the mental anguish

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I feel the same way. I was sleeved on August 17th. I miss food very much. I miss McDonald's and pizza and sweets and Snacks and chips and Pasta. I miss it all!!! Sometimes I wonder why I did this. It does suck. But I lost 20lb since the surgery. It’s been 3.5 weeks. I just keep going. The problem is that I want these foods, but I know my belly will not like it! Just eating turkey, my belly is gurgling and it feels heavy in my belly. At least I can drink my milk! I love milk [emoji7] it’s like my dessert
@jultrim18 my surgery was Aug 15th so you and I are pretty much in the same phase of this journey. I've only lost 14 lbs, 10 just in the first week because I couldn't keep anything down, wound up back to the Doctor's for IV fluids. I still struggle to get to my Protein and Water goals. The physical and mental anguish is more than I was prepared for it seems.

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We always mourn something we used to love and had to give up. Your feelings are valid but thank goodness will pass. I’m four weeks out and I have discovered a strange new energy for cooking all kinds of decadent foods for my family!!! So weird. It’s like I get joy from them being able to have things I can’t. Some recipes have been healthy but lots of delicious things that I won’t tempt any of you with. I’m really looking forward to six months out. Seems like everyone is mostly happy by that point. Keep moving forward!! You’re doing great.
@tiab thank you.
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I went to two county fairs and I brought my own food. Went so my Grandson and other family members could enjoy it. I did take a bite of a hand rolled pretzel otherwise I stuck to the food choices I brought with me.
@Danny Paul wow very impressive!! Great job!!

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I completely understand how you feel. I was lucky in that my surgeon's office forced you to adapt to the post surgery lifestyle prior to surgery. So many of my favorite foods and large portions were already gone. With that said, there has been plenty of stuff I have craved and missed. But it really does get easier. I'm three months out this coming Thursday and you do have to accept that you should never eat some of the foods you ate before. (Well at least not the volumes and not all in the same day.) Try to focus on the fact that in time you can have 2-3 bites of a favorite food you miss and you will really enjoy it. I've totally done that. Now it's just the exception and takes planning and a lot of mindfulness. I can tell you that nothing I miss food-wise compares to how great I feel with 73 lbs. gone. You can do this!! Just focus on the end game--reaching your goal and getting healthy. The only way to get there is to fill your body with healthy food and follow your food plan from your surgeon. Best wishes! [emoji4]
@pleasedontjudgeme thank you. And congratulations on the 73 lbs! Great job!

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Had my sleeve on 8/29 n today I was admitted for dehydration worst thing ever
@xiomara sorry to hear! Same thing happened to me one week post surgery. It was the worst week ever! Hang in there!

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Rs thx yeah their are keeping me also cause I have blood clot under my liver on top of everything else
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Rs thx yeah their are keeping me also cause I have blood clot under my liver on top of everything else
@xiomara oh goodness a blood clot. Well at least they found it and the can monitor you closely. Best wishes that everything gets better very quickly!

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Rs thx yeah their are keeping me also cause I have blood clot under my liver on top of everything else
Blood clots are not fun. I hope you feel better soon. I had blood clots years ago (long before surgery) in my lungs.

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My surgery was 08/17, I miss eating so much, sometimes I tell myself what have I done, I was happy before, I feel like I'll never be able to eat again. my main problem is water/liquid intake, sometimes I go a whole day without drinking Water, I've always hated water, only thing I can consume without any issues is milk with a couple of scoops of Cereal.

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Sleeved 8/13 5 weeks I am with ya'll missing foods but lost 24lbs and 4in in pant size so it's well worth it!!!!

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My surgery was 08/17, I miss eating so much, sometimes I tell myself what have I done, I was happy before, I feel like I'll never be able to eat again. my main problem is water/liquid intake, sometimes I go a whole day without drinking Water, I've always hated water, only thing I can consume without any issues is milk with a couple of scoops of cereal.
@carlo I struggle with getting in the water too

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Sleeved 8/13 5 weeks I am with ya'll missing foods but lost 24lbs and 4in in pant size so it's well worth it!!!!

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@hungryman congratulations!

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On 9/10/2018 at 6:49 PM, jaksmommy said:

I can’t go out to eat or anything like a fair. I would be miserable. The worst thing for me is at work. It seems like food is all people talk about all day.

I've gone out to eat and learned quickly to share an order.

As for work, I'm not missing anything. Today someone brought in fresh Panera bagels (used to be a weakness of mine) and today I saw them (looked great) but the smell of them made me want to get sick. Post surgery I am noticing a lot of foods I previously loved, I can no longer tolerate the smell of.

I really thought I'd be "suffering" more, but as each week progresses, I find it easier and I don't miss those things that were once bad for me. But in my defense as well, I've lived a very low carb lifestyle for the last 9 months so that too has helped in my WLS recovery.

Yesterday I went to the dentist and she commented on how well my teeth looked compared to 6 months ago - I attribute it to living a healthy lifestyle. Less crap buildup on your teeth. The benefits to healthy eating out number the benefits to my lifestyle a year ago.

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