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I've made a conscientious effort to avoid using the word "love" when talking about food.< /span>

"I love chicken wings. I love French fries. I love tacos. I love spaghetti." No more!

I'm breaking off my love affair with food. We're just good friends now.:)

But food keeps trying to win me back. "Give me another chance!"

"No, Food. I'm moving on. There's someone else in my life now. Someone that

I love more than I ever loved you -- myself, my health, my life."

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What word will I use in place of "love"? Probably good ol' "like".

"I like okra. I like shrimp. I like garden-fresh tomatoes. I like pecans."

I'm also going to avoid using the word "hate".

Hate gives Food more importance than it deserves.

"I don't like pineapple. I dislike Brussels sprouts. I don't care for liver."

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For me, it's easier to give up the word "love" rather than "hate". Not sure why.

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I like this idea! Perhaps for me, all inanimate objects as well. Too often I loved things more quickly than I could have ever people.

Except books, I think I will love them still.

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"Relish the Taste of " instead of Love, is that the thin line between
Gourmet-Gourmand- and sheer Gluttony? I only know food was a toxic boy-friend , we needed to break up because he was. set upon trying to kill me . And like the women beaten within an inch of their life appearing on Jerry,Springer, I kept saying " But he said he,❤ loves me, I can't live without him in my life, he's the only true friend,i have!" I didn't think I was strong enough to leave him behind, after all it had been years and years, but I am a strong woman after all. Isn't easy, I still am hearing him in the background, singing, wolf whistling , trying to get my attention. Don't know if he will ever shut up , maybe like an alcoholic has to be very careful--- I am a recovering foodaholic . and will be the rest,of my life?

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8 hours ago, Missouri-Lee's Summit said:

What word will I use in place of "love"? Probably good ol' "like".

This is one of the things our "required" therapist went over. How the use of certain words can frame the argument. My word of choice to describe my feelings toward food is "enjoy". Besides, who doesn't need a little more joy in their lives?

I know a lot of people didn't get anything out of the therapy sessions, but our therapist was superb.

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I like this idea! Perhaps for me, all inanimate objects as well. Too often I loved things more quickly than I could have ever people.
Except books, I think I will love them still.
I'm a book worm too... what do you read?



Sleeved on April 25, 2018
HW: 258
SW: 238
CW: 209
GW: 165

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2 hours ago, browneyez42 said:

I'm a book worm too... what do you read?



Sleeved on April 25, 2018
HW: 258
SW: 238
CW: 209
GW: 165

Soooo many different genres SciFi, psychological thrillers, social commentary, the classics, foreign, you name it! but I'm also not ashamed to admit to reading young adult novels too lol

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Truly, I am so thankful that food has lost its siren song to me. To me, that is one of the best rewards of WLS.
I’m over a decade into this and still very humble and still learning.
Sure, I get hungry... I eat well( most )of the time.
I like the use of ‘love ‘ food being replaced with better lifelong terms.
I truly try not to shop much...mostly do not watch food shows(ok. Mary berry) don’t peruse food mags or recipes. Just keeping a distance....
And please don’t mistake me for someone who “gets it”... I still just try

Life goes on, and the WLoss community can teach us much.

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