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From 2010-2011 I lost 60lb.

From 2011-2012 I gained 60lb.

From 2012-2016 I lost 60lb and hit my lowest weight of 139lb.

From 2016-present I gained 90lb. At highest weight of 227lb.

I just don’t want to try and do it again 😭 I am physically exhausted all the time. I am depressed and food is the only thing that makes me happy. I just want the surgery to kill my cravings and help jumpstart my lifestyle change, which I never succeeded in doing.

Did anyone else feel the same before surgery? I just need this tool because I’m tired of losing and gaining!

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37 minutes ago, jultrim18 said:

From 2010-2011 I lost 60lb.

From 2011-2012 I gained 60lb.

From 2012-2016 I lost 60lb and hit my lowest weight of 139lb.

From 2016-present I gained 90lb. At highest weight of 227lb.

I just don’t want to try and do it again 😭 I am physically exhausted all the time. I am depressed and food is the only thing that makes me happy. I just want the surgery to kill my cravings and help jumpstart my lifestyle change, which I never succeeded in doing.

Did anyone else feel the same before surgery? I just need this tool because I’m tired of losing and gaining!

This surgery will not solve the issues I have bolded above. It will not fix your head. It will shrink your stomach capacity, but you can certainly sabotage that by overeating, eating too frequently and eating poorly. And the surgery definitely WILL NOT kill your cravings.

IMO, you're going about this backwards. You have to be ready to make this lifestyle change, and the surgery is a tool that can help you with that, not vice versa.

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please ask your surgeons office for a referral to a councilor for help with depression.

This surgery can help start you on the way to new life but post op is 95% mental and you can wreck it easy if you cant get there mentally.

And as for your first question. Yes it is alright that you don't want to do the yo-yo again. The up and down of the weight is every bit as bad for you as staying heavy.

The depression you have referred to is the real issue. If you get control of that then this surgery can lead to a great outcome.

good luck

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2 hours ago, sillykitty said:

It will not fix your head. It will shrink your stomach capacity, but you can certainly sabotage that by overeating, eating too frequently and eating poorly. And the surgery definitely WILL NOT kill your cravings.

I too am a yo yo dieter. Losing x amount of weight only to regain it and then some. My reason for WLS was for my health since I had many co morbidities. I lost 60lbs and my diabetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea and other diseases are gone or are very manageable. I recently went on a vacation at a place I go to often. Around my hotel is a place that makes a particular pastry which I can only get there. Day one I bought one just to savor it, eat it and put it behind me. Unfortunately, I ate one each and every day that I was on vacation. My rationalization was, I can't get these at home and I'm on vacation so I am allowed to eat them. I was wrong, I knew I was wrong but I did not stop myself from eating them.

Upon my return I sought a therapist who specializes in abnormal behaviors.(I couldn't find one that specializes in bariatric patients) I soon realized that I have a problem with food. I am a compulsive eater and WLS alone would not cure me. My therapist also suggested that I join Overeaters Anonymous (OA) I have a great sponsor who speaks to me each day and I go to meetings which gives me support. For me, WLS was only a jump start to weight loss. If I did nothing else I would have gained back the weight over time because as SillyKity said "It will not fix your head."

I am really beginning to see that the WLS was only the beginning of my getting healthier it wasn't the end. I have a lot more work ahead of me and I'm glad that I realized that I had a problem and there are avenues to help me correct or at least work around it. I've learned a lot about myself and why I have the relationship I do with food. I still need to find out more though. Please don't think that WLS will solve all of your weight related problems, it looks as if you might need to look for a support system to help you succeed. Good luck and remember you are not alone.

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31 minutes ago, Danny Paul said:

I am really beginning to see that the WLS was only the beginning of my getting healthier it wasn't the end. I have a lot more work ahead of me and I'm glad that I realized that I had a problem and there are avenues to help me correct or at least work around it. I've learned a lot about myself and why I have the relationship I do with food. I still need to find out more though. Please don't think that WLS will solve all of your weight related problems, it looks as if you might need to look for a support system to help you succeed. Good luck and remember you are not alone.

I would make this a header over this group if i could

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I was referred to a book by my psychologist. “Ending Emotional Eating” you can get it at Amazon. It’s really helping. Please give it a read and let me know your thoughts. I can use some support with being held hostage by food too

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Yes! That yo-yo is exactly why I got my surgery


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