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Dammit, I know this is rants and raves, but I just can't say what I want to say without attacking the person and not her ideas. So I'll refrain, but it's so hard.

Chickie, I can only think of two... I guess I need to pay more attention.

Babygrl, did you catch "Don't forget the lyrics" tonight???? I know how much you heart REO Speedwagon...

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Ok, now I know who you're talking about. A relative newbie that thinks someone farts rainbows.

im still confused on this ... i thought everyone did..

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Jesus, I just found that stupid fucking thread that got locked. Do people NOT read their posts before they click submit? How can they honestly say that they don't understand why people were starting to get pissed?

I'll give a heads up to anyone who believes that a size six is ugly. You probably won't want to read the rest of my post.

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I really think a lot of it is jealousy, plain and simple. Here some people are, confronted with people that did it the right way and reached a healthy weight with a sensible diet and exercise, while they've relied on basically starving themselves. Like I said on your blog, Chickie, 95% of the time someone saying shit along the lines of "If I had a BMI of XX, I'd be skin and bones" doesn't even REMEMBER being at that weight. They don't have a damn clue what they'd look like, they are just making excuses because they either A) don't want to put the necessary effort into getting to that point, or :scared2: really don't think they CAN get to that point, so they pretend that they don't want to. Both of which are FINE and DANDY. No one says that everyone has to be a perfect weight. But damn it, ADMIT that you don't want to put in the effort that getting there would require. ADMIT that yes, the weight you are settling for is still medically overweight. If you're happy with that, super, that's all that matters. But don't sit there and serve up a lot of BS about how people that are a perfectly healthy weight are unattractive or talk a bunch of that "to me, to me, to me" crap, because the only person you're fooling is yourself.

And hell, after being 250/300 pounds for years, do most people honestly think they can look at themselves and actually see what they really look like? We all get so used to seeing something look the same way for years, that anything that differs from it isn't going to look right to us. Hell, I still think I look the way I did 60 pounds ago, while people that haven't seen me in a while are calling me "skinny minnie." I'll fully admit that I don't have a damn clue about how I'm going to look when I get to a healthy weight. I'll also admit that I used to be one of those people that said, "I think I'd look horrid at that weight." And yeah, it was jealousy and wanting to pretend that I didn't want it because I didn't think I'd ever get to that point.

I probably pissed a bunch of people off with that, lol! :blush:

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I love this thread! And no, Lauren, you didn't pi$$ anyone off.

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I agree Lauren. No pissed-offness here either. Its a very rational sensible argument you've made there. Shame some others can't see that though......

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BooBooKitty,

Hey, we only live a couple of hours apart! I could potentially take you up on that!! You and BabyGirl live pretty close too!

Where you at???

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BBK I am in. Ypsi is only like a 15 minute drive for me =) I actually have to head out to AA this weekend to get to the bike store and score me a new helmet.

Lauren I have to agree with what you said. I know I had a very warped perception of how I looked in the mirror. I would see pictures and say "no way I don't liook that big in the mirror" and I didn't. At least in my head. That is why I don't see much of a difference in the mirror now. I never let myself see what I really looked like.

As for getting to a healthy BMI, I have no idea what I will look like once I am there. I have not been a healthy weight since I was 10 years old. Even after losing 90 pounds I am skeptical that I can get there. I don't want to think that way, I try not to. And I certainly do not give up the fight but sometimes it is so hard to think that I could weigh below 160. Even harder to imagine what I would look like at 130. But I am not delusional in thinking that I am not overweight right now. Of course I am overweight still. Just not as much as before. Is it healther than it was? Absolutely. But I don't want to settle for partial health. I want the whole kit and caboodle.

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Babygrl, did you catch "Don't forget the lyrics" tonight???? I know how much you heart REO Speedwagon...

Shit, shit, SHIT!!!!!!!!!!

I friggin forgot all about it. But yeah I was going to be all over it right up until the moment I forgot =)

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