Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Choosing a Surgeon - How many did you interview?



Recommended Posts

A bit of background before I get to my real question:

When I started considering surgery I did a TON of research on the procedure and on the programs in my area. I researched six different surgeons and found all the info I could on them - experience, reviews, hospital affiliations, and peer affiliations. I narrowed my top choices down those with great credentials and had a lot of information online including videos of them doing their orientation/info sessions. This really helped to get all the info in a short period of time and get a sense of them as a person. I set up initial consultations with my top three.

One surgeon saw me within two days of my call. The other two I had to schedule a few weeks out and have yet to see them. My husband accompanied me to the consult with the first surgeon. We both agreed we really liked everything about him - his personality, his perspective on why his program is set up the way it is, and the way he was empathetic to all my concerns and questions. Also when I told him I was self-pay and already had financing set up through one specific company, he told me he didn't have a relationship with them but went out of his way to get set up with that company to ensure I could use them with his practice. Something he didn't have to do.

So here's my question - Because I feel so confident in the first surgeon I'm leaning towards not even meeting with the other two. Is that crazy? The reason I narrowed it down to these three is that they all have the same excellent credentials and perform the surgeries in some of the top hospitals in the area. Because I already know how their program is set up I feel like the only purpose in meeting them is to evaluate their bedside manner and if we click or not. But because the first surgeon checked all the boxes for me, is it a waste of time to even bother meeting the other surgeons? Or is it just reckless to not talk to anyone else and go with the first one?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I only consulted with one surgeon for the sleeve.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

VSG is not rocket science. I just picked a local doctor with 2,000 of these surgeries under his belt and went with him.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Not crazy at all.

I only met one Bariatric surgeon.

I set up five plastics consults when I met with them and knew right away with the “right” one (3rd). could easily have skipped the final two wouldn’t have changed my decision a bit.


Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

1 hour ago, Apple203 said:

VSG is not rocket science. I just picked a local doctor with 2,000 of these surgeries under his belt and went with him.

Ditto, VSG is like having your oil changed. I wanted to verify that they would put the plug back in, but honestly I was more concerned with insurance than anything else.

If I need plastic surgery at some point that will be a very different process.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks - you guys have made me feel a bit better about my decision. I guess I’m just anxious because it’s such a big lifestyle change.


~Emily

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

well for me i went with the same surgeon who took out my appendix last year so i already trust him and have amazing rapport with him. i trust the other two surgeons in the practice both are amazing but i mean once you have seen the work of one and know they are not only amazing at what they do but will leave no marks cosmetically that just right there made me finalize my decision completely. i love my surgeon he is smart whitey and completely makes me feel at ease also amazing bed side manor.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I went to interview two programs basically, each with like 5 surgeons to choose from. I didn’t like the first programs layout or resources, so I went to the second. Loved it, picked the surgeon who had been there the longest.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

8 hours ago, redhead_che said:

I went to interview two programs basically, each with like 5 surgeons to choose from. I didn’t like the first programs layout or resources, so I went to the second. Loved it, picked the surgeon who had been there the longest.

I'm curious, what was it about the first program you didn't like?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

15 minutes ago, Ylime said:

I'm curious, what was it about the first program you didn't like?

They didn’t have as in depth follow up care. They didn’t have a laid out step by step diet plan (ex weeks1/2 then 3/4) no follow up nutrition visits and no support groups. I needed something that told me every week how I should be progressing

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

20 minutes ago, redhead_che said:

They didn’t have as in depth follow up care. They didn’t have a laid out step by step diet plan (ex weeks1/2 then 3/4) no follow up nutrition visits and no support groups. I needed something that told me every week how I should be progressing

That's good then, follow up is key!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

They didn’t have as in depth follow up care. They didn’t have a laid out step by step diet plan (ex weeks1/2 then 3/4) no follow up nutrition visits and no support groups. I needed something that told me every week how I should be progressing

That's exactly what i love about my program so much. We have our own closed Facebook group and unlimited access to the doctors and nutritionist at our disposal we have also a fitness trainer who does group activities with us there is a professional chef who went thru the program that does live cooking demonstrations we get a binder right at the beginning of the program and guides you step by step it's our bible. Also we have support groups. And in the pre op area on Tuesdays and Thursdays the day of surgery right before you can have someone do music therapy. I love love love my program

Sent from my SM-T380 using BariatricPal mobile app

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Since you're self pay, I would at least check prices of the other surgeons. But if you're happy with his cost too, that's great! I talked with 6 practices. 3 actual surgeons, but two cost so much I would never use them.

Sent from my XT1254 using BariatricPal mobile app

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The only specialist I ever interviewed,was my children's pediatrician. I had been a small town girl, a general practice physician had sufficed for my needs. Now I had moved to the Big City where there was more diversity of specialties, I was,all pregnant with child#2. I asked my friends, called Nationwide Children's Hospital and asked for a listing of doctors practicing in that area of Franklin County Ohio. One name constantly came up so I called his office And arranged to,meet with him. A very nice person, a more than competent physician who took wonderful care of my children as long as we lived in that locale.
I have never interviewed a Bariatric Surgeon. I called,his recommended hospital and they assigned him to me. Would I have chosen my ex-surgeon? Probably for he was like a coral snake, not unattractive, even pretty in coloration, but highly,poisonous and treacherous and no antivenom readily available. Am I. bitter? Well yes but I even more resent the waste of my time and my insurance company's money on someone with no substance, he was all smoke and mirrors and I was too dumb or naive to see through him.
My new program I go into with eyes wider open, I have new glasses and I hope they will enable me to see better. This time it will be their responsibility to win my trust and If there is any termination of our relationship it will be from me before,my self esteem even sustains any bruising, before,my reputation has any trace of besmirchment.
An old Proverb
Fool me once, shame on you!
Fool me twice, shame on me!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 1 reply
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×