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paula

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Mike and I have been married for 15 loooong years. We were 19 when were married. We came from different religions, different cultures, different backgrounds - my mother said it would only last 1 year, 2 at the most!

I confessed to him later in life that at 19 I only married him to get out of my abusive alcoholic dad's home.... he understood.

Weve been though the normal events that stress a marriage; job loss, the raising of 3 kids, numorous surgeries, moving, the near death experience of our 9yr old (that was at the hands of Mike), and of coarse, always being broke......

Lastnight we were able to "get away" and go to a restaurant - ALONE :eek !

At the restaurant he kept looking at me and telling me how good I looked.

After a couple of times, I knew he was sincere (lol).

But, IT happened on our way home...

holding my hands and looking at me he told me something that made me cry (still does)....

he told me that he was more 'in-love' with me at that moment then any other time in our lives together.

Isnt that beautiful?

So I want to send words of warning out...

Caution: I share this moment with LBT to warn you of the results of Adjustable Gastric Banding - MORE love and romance in marriages are linked to this surgery!!!!

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How very special and oh so touching. You deserve it Paula, you are a very special lady! He sounds like he is a very special man, I am so happy for you.

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It couldn't happen to a nicer lady. That's very touching and I'm so happy for you. That's wonderful, Paula.

Nancy

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yeah yeah yeah that is great an all, but how was the sex afterward? LOL!! Sorry if I offended but I have to live vicariously through others. LOL!!

Paula, it couldn't have happened to a nicer person. Well with the exception of me maybe. LOL!!

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I'm such a sucker for a good love story! Paula, he doesn't love you because of your band or weightloss. He loves you for you!! Since I've had the privilege to meet you, I know he's a very wise man! I have this quote setting in my master bath, "The Longer We Love, The Stronger We Love". You've built a rich history together. And you have your "Golden Years" still ahead! Enjoy this three-day weekend together!

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yeah yeah yeah that is great an all, but how was the sex afterward? LOL!! Sorry if I offended but I have to live vicariously through others. LOL!!

ha! He tried! But since we still share our bed with "others", he was unsuccessful.

Nothing more romantic then having this wonderful dinner and time together, only to go home to a bunch of WILD animals!!!!!!

Kinda kills the moment, you know?

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Awe, I got goose bumps, that was so sweet. Thanks for sharing that with us, although, your DH would probably have a fit if he knew, that is if he's like mine.

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Sounds like you were sinking in the quicksand of a dysfunctional family and reached for a tree root to pull yourself out, then had the vision to realize you had grabbed a golden bough instead.

Congratulations! You are doing an amazing thing. You are realizing that you have diamonds in your own back yard.

Great story. That's not just a moment. It's a treasure.

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The kindness/love that comes from this place is unbelievable. Thank you all so much for being such a big part of my life.

I love you.

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Ya'll take a gander at my band-daughter's (Paula) new avatar. Isn't she gorgeous? ;)

Beautiful picture, Paula. Hugs to ya..

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