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I had my sleeve done on 2/14 and I’m supposed to be eating yogurt and Protein Drinks only until Wednesday then I can go to puréed foods. Yeah no...I’ve been cheating so bad and I mean things I should not be eating. Today I ate a 3 little Reece’s eggs and 3 little KitKats and French fries from McDonald’s! I’ve been eating crackers everyday. What am I doing? I don’t even know how my poor stomach is handling what I’m doing to it...I don’t know what to do? I’m losing the head hunger battle already? Will I ever be successful? Should I go to therapy? I feel like I see food everywhere around me....it’s on tv and I feel like my family is always eating! I feel like if I was back at work I could do better because I’m busy and at home I’m just lazy...sitting around watching tv or playing on my phone. I feel depressed and not motivated to do anything. I should be cleaning or doing school work. I just suck!

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Climb down from the ledge!!! Get a grip and throw the crap food in the garbage - pour dishsoap on it. Get out a Protein drink and journal your feelings and your daily intake. Stop watching TV with commercials, don't watch cooking shows, don't sit at meal times with the family. You need some introspection - write down all those scary feelings that you aren't good enough to make this a success, the voice in your head that says I'm a big fat failure - banish that evil ****** from your head. Food is just food, not your friend. Repeat that a hundred times. You will eat again, there is no need to panic, there is no famine. Repeat that a hundred times. Give yourself a hug - you had major surgery, you are brave and you can do this. You know exactly what to do.

Go to group mtgs, find a buddy, even consider some counseling. You can do this.

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Aw come on Pride of the Badgers, you know better than this. It is no longer your job to eat food just so it doesn't get away from you. You are not the world's trashcan, that was one of my failings, I'm a mommy, rather than refrigerating the end of the cassarole after casserole, i ate it. Now I have a rump that won't fit through the rabbit hole, shoot it barely fits through a metal drainpipe. I wouldn't say it's head hunger you aren't even using your head to think. You are suffering from terminal boredom and unconscious engorgement. You are abusing your new tool, it's like putting it in a vise grip and pounding it with a sledge hammer. You know you know better, there isn't anyone stuffing things in your crumb cruncher but you. Put the Reese cups down, no not down your throat, child. If you were in Texas Fluffy Chix would administer a b***h slapping and I might just let her.Now up off of your rump, drink some Water or chrystal lite, you are a foodaholic and just like an alcoholic trying to reform you need to stay on that wagon, even if it's an uncomfortable haywagon.Yeah food is all around you, it's trying to seduce you back into its clutches. I live 30 miles from Dublin Ohio, the home of Wendy's. You think I don't have a barrage of commercials headed my way? Buck up Buckaroo, don't sit and feel sorry for yourself, yeah you made a mistake, wonder you didn't get sick, but you can And should vow to nor do it again. Think you want a fry? A moment on the lips, forever on your hips. Think how greasy slimy cold frenchfry grease is.Get up and clean but do some knee bends, March in place, sing Go you chicken Fat Go. You can do it, take some of that resolve that got you past your surgery, nothing to it but to do it. You're having a pity party and catering it yourself. Besides I'm wise but I haven't had my surgery yet, you've got to get mentally stable so you can mentor me! Your Buckeye friend ME

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12 minutes ago, kakatlady612 said:

Aw come on Pride of the Badgers, you know better than this. It is no longer your job to eat food just so it doesn't get away from you. You are not the world's trashcan, that was one of my failings, I'm a mommy, rather than refrigerating the end of the cassarole after casserole, i ate it. Now I have a rump that won't fit through the rabbit hole, shoot it barely fits through a metal drainpipe. I wouldn't say it's head hunger you aren't even using your head to think. You are suffering from terminal boredom and unconscious engorgement. You are abusing your new tool, it's like putting it in a vise grip and pounding it with a sledge hammer. You know you know better, there isn't anyone stuffing things in your crumb cruncher but you. Put the Reese cups down, no not down your throat, child. If you were in Texas Fluffy Chix would administer a b***h slapping and I might just let her.Now up off of your rump, drink some Water or chrystal lite, you are a foodaholic and just like an alcoholic trying to reform you need to stay on that wagon, even if it's an uncomfortable haywagon.Yeah food is all around you, it's trying to seduce you back into its clutches. I live 30 miles from Dublin Ohio, the home of Wendy's. You think I don't have a barrage of commercials headed my way? Buck up Buckaroo, don't sit and feel sorry for yourself, yeah you made a mistake, wonder you didn't get sick, but you can And should vow to nor do it again. Think you want a fry? A moment on the lips, forever on your hips. Think how greasy slimy cold frenchfry grease is.Get up and clean but do some knee bends, March in place, sing Go you chicken Fat Go. You can do it, take some of that resolve that got you past your surgery, nothing to it but to do it. You're having a pity party and catering it yourself. Besides I'm wise but I haven't had my surgery yet, you've got to get mentally stable so you can mentor me! Your Buckeye friend ME

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It kills a Wolverine to agree with a Buckeye, but Kakatlady speaks the truth! shake yourself and remind yourself why you had surgery in the first place. If you want to get there, you have to leave that junk alone! Some day you can have ONE reeses egg again, but not now. Do not hurt yourself after you did all the work to get to surgery!

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Short answer. Yes. Seek therapy.

And also clean out the house of all contraband. Unfortunately, you've now made your life more miserable because you are out of ketosis again. You will have to endure another 4 day stretch of hunger and misery to get back into ketosis.

I can't give you a hug about this. It's serious to the extreme and you recognize this. On Monday, call for a therapy consult from your surgeon. Don't fu*k up your tool.

The end. :( :57_cry:

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Is it possible to get the temptation food out of the house. Honestly, I know for me it would be so much hared if I had that food around.

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It will get easier as your diet progresses, hunger should fade some. Be very careful, so far your choices are soft and I assume very well chewed, but the wrong thing could cause real issues. I too had some crackers early. If possible remove trigger foods and keep busy if you can. Don’t linger in the kitchen or pantry either

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I ate a doughnut about a week and a half after surgery and puked it back up, so that helped cure me of any desires to eat faster than what the plan told me to do. I would occasionally crumble up a few saltines and put them at the bottom of my strained cream soup; by the time I got to them, they were soft enough to tolerate.

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14 hours ago, wishingskinni said:

I had my sleeve done on 2/14 and I’m supposed to be eating yogurt and Protein Drinks only until Wednesday then I can go to puréed foods. Yeah no...I’ve been cheating so bad and I mean things I should not be eating. Today I ate a 3 little Reece’s eggs and 3 little KitKats and French fries from McDonald’s! I’ve been eating crackers everyday. What am I doing? I don’t even know how my poor stomach is handling what I’m doing to it...I don’t know what to do? I’m losing the head hunger battle already? Will I ever be successful? Should I go to therapy? I feel like I see food everywhere around me....it’s on tv and I feel like my family is always eating! I feel like if I was back at work I could do better because I’m busy and at home I’m just lazy...sitting around watching tv or playing on my phone. I should be cleaning or doing school work. I just suck!

If you are feeling out of control with food schedule an appointment with a therapist.

Your stomach needs the slow food progression to heal.

You recognized the slip...now it's time to get back on the horse. The cheat carbs and sugar are going to cause you more hunger. Time to detox off them and follow your plan. Get your Protein in first 60-100gms. It will help you feel more satisfied.( It will get better on real food stage)

Already suggested but I'm repeating it anyway -

  • Get all temptation food out of the house until you can manage your food world.
  • Stop going to fast food places.
  • clean house, find a hobby or go for a walk instead of watching TV.

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Two things that have worked for me (I realize that I'm only a week out of surgery): 1. I have an inspiration board (for my eyes only) that has pictures of my goals post weight loss. They include vacations, physical activities, events, articles of clothing etc. Nothing is too vain or outlandish 2. On the other side of the board I have pictures that I hated, times where my weight caused me to miss out on events, made me feel bad embarrassed etc. This board is a work in progress and just seeing it in black and white puts food in prospective for me.

Also, one day at a time and sometimes one hour at a time.

We have all sabotaged ourselves and we understand the feelings of failure and giving up, but you have got this!

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