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Yeah but you' d have a fighting chance of running, at my still size all I could do is knock him to the ground and sit on him until the Sheriff came. And if he's a perv he might enjoy it.

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Lol! Yeah like I said I wouldn’t trade it, but it’s a source of anxiety on occasion that I didn’t anticipate. It’s really more subconscious than anything... I just get anxious and avoid certain things I didn’t before. When I analyze why that’s what comes up.




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1 hour ago, jess9395 said:

For example when running alone on a deserted road and I see a parked car with a man inside. I worry in a way I never did before.

Carry some mace! I do, everywhere I go.

Hey, I can relate to the power/strength of when I was heavier. We had to be strong to carry all that extra fat! I even did my weights 3x a week as obese. Now, I'm still doing them, but don't feel as strong as before. Anyway, I plan to get there again.

As to the OP question...NOPE!!!

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F, NO!

The closest I get is when I am freezing cold. In SoCal where it is at lowest 50. I am now always cold. I guess we were wearing internal sweaters. Right now I am in a slightly heated room, but I have a top, a sweater, and a thick hoodie on. BUT I DONT WANT THE FAT BACK. No thank you! I’d rather wear the sweaters!

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I'm still preop (two day to go) but I can understand the OP's question. Already I feel a sense of loss for the person I worked so hard to be. My weight is a huge part of my identity and as someone who's never been able to lose more than 40/50lbs in her life it's hard to picture life as anything else. I fully expect to mourn the 'me' I know, but I hope to gain a healthier version I can be just as happy with. So@marissa37 , I'd say I probably will miss being overweight. But in that way you miss a really good book when you're done reading it...


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I'm still only 40 pounds lower than my highest weight, but I've been at both sides of the spectrum, very skinny and obese.

When I'm thin, I miss the cushion that was my butt, and the warmth my fat had provided me. I do also miss being a little more invisible, because I feel that thin me attracts too much attention.

When I'm heavy, I miss my thighs not fighting each other and destroying my pants inner legs, and I miss the energy I used to have, the ease with which I would move my body.

So both sides have their perks and their disadvantages.

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No. I don't miss not being able to run, to fit clothes easily, to find clothes at more stores, to fit into booths at restaurants, to use belts, to use normal seatbelts, to wear jeans again, to wear skinny jeans, to wear dresses, to wear boots, to not sweat while doing basic activities, to exercise, to not feel self-conscious about appearance, to wear a swimsuit, to vacation.......to so much more. No I absolutely do not miss it and could kick myself for not having surgery sooner.

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No I don't miss being afraid of sitting on a plastic or fold up chair and being scared it will break. I don't miss the fear of trying the biggest size in the store and afraid that will not fit me. I don't miss waking 500 meters and fee like I am about to pass out.




I almost forgot about breaking plastic chairs at gatherings, don't miss that at all

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I'm still technically obese but I can't say I miss being heavier. Just the logistics of navigating a world meant for smaller people was exhausting. Plane/cinema/bus seats, restaurant booths, seatbelts (UGH!), forget squeezing past someone, stairs - oh hell STAIRS!, narrow aisles, bending over to pick up after the dog and wondering if I would be able to stand up again, sweating all the time, arranging journeys with as little walking as possible, trying to keep up with people when you're walking in a group, being seen in public swimming at the beach (ok that one still freaks me out), the constant fear of breaking something or hearing loud sounds when you walk anywhere, or escalators squeeking. It was so exhausting.

That said, I do miss the ease of plus size shopping. There were like 3 places that sell clothes that I like (and only online so I never had to try anything on). So that made shopping pretty damn simple. Now, the choices freak me out. I feel lost and don't know how to deal with it. I don't really think anything suits me. Or maybe I don't know what my "style" is.

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On ‎2‎/‎12‎/‎2018 at 3:38 AM, Tealael said:

I invested in some pretty expensive clothes / coats because I thought i would be that size forever. When I had to give them away I had a small moment when I wished I could still fit them. Other than that no.

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I just had that moment too, I cleaned out my closet of old clothing that was too big. I spent a lot on all that clothing which is why I think I wished I may still "wanted" to fit them, but it was also a relief moment too.

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I just had that moment too, I cleaned out my closet of old clothing that was too big. I spent a lot on all that clothing which is why I think I wished I may still "wanted" to fit them, but it was also a relief moment too.

I just cleared the rest of the stuff I can't fit anymore, and it's hard giving away stuff I genuinely LOVE

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3 hours ago, Tealael said:


I just cleared the rest of the stuff I can't fit anymore, and it's hard giving away stuff I genuinely LOVE

I just had surgery this month, so I'm not there yet, but that is one of my regrets. I have a substantial professional wardrobe, with many pieces I love, not to mention the money spent. I regret I will have to spend $1000's replacing it all, but glad at the same time.

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No because Im still fat! But i know I dont want to lose too much, i just want to improve my health issues. no desire to be a size 6! thats just not me

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