At my current job I take care of special needs children and children with behavioral issues in a school setting. Tho my coworkers constantly request me to work In there classrooms because I am good at what I do, my supervisor seems to think that since I am fat then I must be a lazy worker regardless of of recommendations I’ve gotten. Since I haven’t had my surgery yet I was wondering If those who have already had the surgery have noticed that people have started treating you better because your no longer the fat and obviously lazy person? People who maybe talk to you now that never even notice out before?

People who knew me before the surgery haven't treated me very different, I think. Most people are happy for me and the progress I've made. I have noticed that men are more receptive of me. It's not that they were cruel or mean to me before, I just felt like men never really saw me, but now they do, I guess, or maybe I'm just more aware of it.

People always perceive you based upon your appearance. It's a sad fact of life. Post surgery, I'm down 65 lbs and it's been a very different experience for me. Before my surgery, I couldn't get a job. People looked at me like I was lazy and fat. Post surgery, interviews are easier, and i got a seasonal job after one interview. I wish I could tell you that it won't matter, that the only thing that matters is how you perceive yourself and it's about what is inside that matters, but I won't lie to you. The world is a very superficial place and some people will change their attitude and opinion of you based upon your changed appearance. BUT YOU SHOULDN'T! You know your value and your worth. Don't let the others determine who or what you are by your appearance. Take their changes toward you in stride. You can't fix stupid.