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Need some feedback from sleeved folks 18 months-2 years out. I just had my year visit with my surgeon's office. HW known 336 SW 303 CW 194 GW 136. The doctor said that I should aim for GW 170, that I am being unrealistic in my goal. That would still leave me overweight for my height bordering on obese. Do you think reaching 136 by my 2 year anniversary is unrealistic? That is 58 lbs in a year. Although they were thrilled with my results, I am feeling discouraged after my visit.

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My highest weight is more than yours but my height and goal are similar, so I hope that's not unrealistic! I honestly have no idea what will happen, and will take what I can get in terms of loss, but you've done great so far--I'd just take things as they come. Meet the doctor's goal first and then see what happens when you continue eating right and exercising. Good luck!!

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Here's what I told my doctor when he asked me what my goal weight was:

I have no idea what my target weight should be. How could I? Or anyone really? I have been overweight since adulthood, I have no idea what weight I will be at when I feel like I've reached the point where I'm ready to Maintain. In fact, I feel that setting a goal weight now would be entirely arbitrary and I don't want to set goals that are not realistic or obtainable.

He said he was very happy with that answer and felt it was completely accurate. He said that we will monitor where I'm at as my appointments go by and we can determine when we feel I've reached the point we are both happy with.

On my last appointment a few weeks ago, I was at 177 I think, he said I still have a lot to lose. I was happy he said that because even though I'm in a size 12-10 I really feel like there is so much more for me to do. I'm glad we are both on the same page here.

But my point is this: For us setting a goal weight can be partially arbitrary. Unless you were thin as an adult most of us don't' really know what our body's best weight is gonna be. And remember, you are working with your doctor but if you want to keep trying to improve your health and your physical situation, you can do that. Your doctor can't stop you.

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Wow, I was going to say something about weight loss statistics and how averages don't predict individual success.... but I like the answer that @LittleLizzieLilliput gave so much better!! that is a great way to think and I am going to follow your example.....I'll just keep going until it feels right!! Love it. :)

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Thanks so much, everyone. It isn't even the numbers as much as the labels. I want my weight to be "normal" rather than overweight or obese. I am taking on board your advice to just keep going and not focus on the labels. I am going to have to work on that a bit. Otherwise my head seems in the right space.


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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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