So I am 5 days post op and had to take my son to a drs appointment. How do people deal with trying to just digest fluids, because as soon as we are out and I take a sip of anything I need to use the bathroom and not for urine Is this something that gets better? I am afraid to leave the house and I am also exhausted and did minimal today.

I was the opposite very constipated in the first 2 weeks.

Oh no, I know that feeling. The first few weeks were rough for me, too. I think that we are really not fit for "normal" life like running errands and leaving the house for a while afterwards. But with kids, what are you going to do, right?

What helped me was accepting that this was okay, and not asking myself to do more than absolutely minimally necessary. I think normally as a mom and if you work, etc., you take care of so much, and it will just exhaust you when you are fresh out of surgery and eating almost nothing. Your body is in shock. That was SO frustrating for me, feeling like I couldn't keep up with my life without failing at the damn fluid/protein goals or feeling weak and sick. Even if you can't stop doing everything, maybe you can really lower your expectations for now and be gentle with yourself. It will get better eventually, I think, when you are on regular food and you start to get some energy back.

And if you need to leave the house, as you will, try to find the one thing that doesn't make you ill-- Powerade Zero, or whatever drink you favor-- and take it with you, so you have one "trusted" source of fluid. I love Powerade, I swear it gave me so much more energy in the first weeks.

Good luck! It really sucks in the beginning. I'm sure you are doing great, and it may take a while, but it WILL eventually get better and you will feel more normal.