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Hey everyone I am new here and I tried searching but couldn't find much in the way of this so if I'm asking something that has been asked before I apologise.

Basically I am wondering what/if there is anything I can do to mentally prepare or help with the huge adjustment of surgery.

My surgery is scheduled for the 3rd of July and I am very conscious of the fact that it will help with the physical side of things but I am going to have to put in a lot of work mentally. I am definitely an emotional/binge eater with a deeply unhealthy relationship with food and I'm so worried about what life is going to be like post surgery.

If anyone has any tips or advice or even just some insight into what life will be like, anything really especially if you had issues with emotional eating and binge eating and those sorts of things beforehand that would so be great

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You need a therapist and nutritionist ASAP! This is a lifelong commitment, I am an emotional eater and struggle with it daily. Therapy has given me some insight, but when I'm really stressed out, it's hard.

You can eat after surgery, you have to make a conscious decision to choose the right thing.

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You need a therapist and nutritionist ASAP! This is a lifelong commitment, I am an emotional eater and struggle with it daily. Therapy has given me some insight, but when I'm really stressed out, it's hard.
You can eat after surgery, you have to make a conscious decision to choose the right thing.


Yes definitely I have both of those things but will only of had 2 appointments of each by the time I have surgery. That will definitely be ongoing though and hopefully it will help but sounds like it's still going to be hard.

Be conscious and make good decisions I shall definitely try! Thank you for your response [emoji4]

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Congratulations on your decision to do wls. It is definitely a lot of heavy emotional lifting. And I agonized over that part. But I can tell you it's so worth it. If you can start identifying the emotions that are driving your eating that will help. And your patterns too. I was so freaked out about the emotional stuff too. And I'll say it's not quite as bad as I feared. However, I've done a lot of therapy. I wonder if you have Mom issues like me. Seems like so many of us do. That was one of the roots of my eating problems. I'm still working on it. But it's more manageable. The surgery will lead to a mind set shift due to the restriction. And that will help tremendously. But you have to change your relationship to food for good. Your trips to the supermarket will be very different. You'll just learn day by day. You can do it. If I can anyone can! Reach out if you have any questions. I'm 3 mos out and down about 50 lbs (40 since surgery). Best of luck.
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Using these forums and doing support groups really help too.


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