I will likely be having my surgery in June (July at the latest). I still haven't told my main boss yet for fear of retaliation. You see, with me having been taking so much time off for all of my appts and the fact that our bookkeeper is retiring July 1 and I'm on the hiring committee for her replacement, I'm afraid he'll get mad. I don't know how to approach the subject with him. He's not the friendliest of people with me. Not that he's mean, just that I'm not one of his "pals" so to speak. How would you approach this? What would you say?

You dont have to go into specifics about what kind of surgery you are having because most people really dont and wont understand it. But I would def let him know that you do have surgery coming up because June/July will be here sooner than later. And if need be you can explain to him that, that is the reason for why you have been taking off so much,

I didnt want to tell my boss either and I didnt go into specifics but I did finally let him know bc I was taking off so much for appointments and he became suspicious like I was looking for another job or somethin lol which I didnt want him to think.

Just tell him, it may not be as bad as u think and a weight will be lifted.

Just say your having a medical procedure they do not know to need which. My staff tells me because they want me to know what's going on not because I ask.

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You do not have to tell him anything. In fact all he needs to know is that you are going out on medical leave. FMLA does protect you from being fired for leaving. The company doesn't have to pay you but they cannot fire you.

Depending on the company, if you carry short term disability you have to tell them when you apply for it but they CANNOT tell him specifics. FMLA and HIPA cover this.

I didn't tell my boss and we are pretty close.

I told my boss I was having surgery and would be off work 4-6 weeks (worst case, I was only off for 3 weeks and could have gone back earlier if needed). He didn't ask details about the surgery and I didn't offer any. For my STD paperwork my surgeon and I said "major abdominal surgery" but my boss doesn't see any of that - he just gets notified that I applied for a medical leave.

I told my boss I have to have my gallbladder removed. That's that what can she say you can't have off.