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Redmaxx    740

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Ask yourself this, would you want him to tell you if he was having this surgery?

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Navigating the Wilderness    824

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Its all a personal choice, and I bet people in here would be split pretty evenly between tell or don't tell. I personally would tell them. You are going to have the surgery and eventually that person will probably put 2 and 2 together, so you might as well test the waters.

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OutsideMatchInside    10,166

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13 minutes ago, TammyLee66 said:

Hi everyone I'm newly dating someone and soon I will be my VSG surgery. My question is do I tell this guy I'm dating or not

If you have to ask, the answer is probably no.

If you were in a place with him that you had a deep connection/relationship, you wouldn't be asking us you would just tell him.

I wasn't dating anyone at the time I had surgery. The people have I dated post-op, I have been honest with about losing weight and trying to get in better health, but I haven't mentioned surgery. None have ask and most aren't curious that I have lost/am losing weight. They just like that I'm pretty and look amazing in a dress. :lol:

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OutsideMatchInside    10,166

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I guess the only issue you are going to have to address is recovery. You don't want to ghost on a new guy if you like him,

I dunno if it isn't serious I would probably just break it off. You need to be focused on yourself and you food. It takes a lot of energy to get this right post-op. Then when you get into post-op hormone based mood swings. I wouldn't subject anyone to that I didn't have a really strong connection to. I'm lucky I have kept all my friends :lol:

So dish on this guy so we can give better advice. How long have you been dating? What are your ages? Is he divorced? Where did you meet him? Have you been to pound town yet?

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LittleLizzieLilliput    919

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I'm terrified of dating now, them seeing my body now that it's all melted. I'm having a really hard time emotionally with that myself. I am really into this guy and he's into me but I'm too afraid to pull the trigger because then I have to have to deal with how disgusting I feel I look without cloths on. But then I don't want to wait 2+ years for the full-body life to have sex. lol! Oh man, I'm such a mess. This is the one area where I have no idea what to do, how to start, etc.

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kbellakat    69

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Hi everyone I'm newly dating someone and soon I will be my VSG surgery. My question is do I tell this guy I'm dating or not


Well if you really like him then be honest & tell him if you plan on still seeing him ... cos think he's gonna know somethings up eventually right ...then u will see if there is a stronger connection.. ..
especially when u start dropping all the weight.. .. lol otherwise if you don't wanna keep seeing this guy then no don't .. & ghost him lol.. good luck Tammy ! [emoji4][emoji106]


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odontask    13

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Good luck. Just be weary. You never know who's going to have an opinion about your surgery and he might have a negative reaction you didn't expect. But I do agree with the Person who says he is going to know something is up depending on how frequent you see each other.


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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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