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Keep in mind that I am still at the very early stages of the pre-op process....

Just curious if anyone else has had their mind try to talk themselves out of getting the sleeve? I've been really excited about it and the prospect of loosing weight have keeping it off and then all of a sudden my brain is trying to tell me that I don't need it. That I'll regret not being able to eat my favorite foods. That I'll be missing out on something if I get this done.

I know I want to get it done. It'll help me do everything that I want to do. It will help me be the person that I truly want to be. I want to be able to work out. I want to go hiking. I want to run around with my future kids and play with them. I want to wear normal clothes and feel pretty.

I'm just suddenly doubting the dumb stuff. Anyone else go through that so early on?

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Yep. Big time. I was going to have my surgery in 2016 and got cold feet. Starting over with medical weight management for my insurance company. Hoping to get sleeved in September.

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Yep!! I just had my first consult and after the meeting with the nutritionist I was freaking out!! She kinda made it seem like I could never eat a normal thing again! And no margaritas?!?!?!! And I'm paying cash because I don't want to do the 6 month requirement for the insurance. (I'm 5'6, 250, no other health issues except my obesity). I thought, maybe I can just do this myself! But the fact is, I have to be honest with myself and know that I wouldn't. But reading these forums has made me feel better! My surgery is set for June 1 and I'm excited but very nervous!!


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Yes. A million times my brain has tried to talk me out of it and then I start sabotaging my pre op diet and I realize, yes, I need this surgery.

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Yes. I talked myself out twice. Cancelled surgeon appts twice. Wasn't so I could eat all the wrong foods, I literally thought I could exercise and diet my way out of 100 plus pounds. Maybe if I were single, no kids....yes, the extra responsibilities holds me back. My surgeon even told me that only 2% of people in my age group who actually lose it all on their own, keep it off. Only 2%! Well, I'm not in the 2% and to top it off I need to drastically reduce the chances of cancer, diabetes, etc as I don't have anything now. My mother has all of those now and I don't think she'll last through the next year. 😕 So, I haven't changed my mind at all during my journey this time around. It's a go!

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I have questioned myself over and over again. All I can think about is the cokes I love to drink and the great food I will missed. Then, I realized this is my only chance because I am middle age and want to do so many things. I have diet before and always gained the weight back doubled, so I just put my negative thoughts on the back burner and pushed through the doubts. You can do this. Good Luck!

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No, not at all. I have mine scheduled in about 36 hours and I cannot wait. However, I have a big advantage; my wife got the sleeve 2 years ago and I've seen first hand the overwhelming positive aspects of her life on so many levels. I am sure if you go through with it, you'll live a longer, healthier and happier life. Best of luck, whatever path you choose.

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Keep in mind that I am still at the very early stages of the pre-op process....
Just curious if anyone else has had their mind try to talk themselves out of getting the sleeve? I've been really excited about it and the prospect of loosing weight have keeping it off and then all of a sudden my brain is trying to tell me that I don't need it. That I'll regret not being able to eat my favorite foods. That I'll be missing out on something if I get this done.
I know I want to get it done. It'll help me do everything that I want to do. It will help me be the person that I truly want to be. I want to be able to work out. I want to go hiking. I want to run around with my future kids and play with them. I want to wear normal clothes and feel pretty.
I'm just suddenly doubting the dumb stuff. Anyone else go through that so early on?


I had a totally irrational thought process going. My biggest concern wasn't for the immediate but for maybe 10-20 years out. The scenario that played through my head was that I had some condition that had a treatment that required my whole stomach to be there. Because I didn't have a complete stomach, I couldn't get the treatment and was told I would die if I didn't get the treatment. No details, just fear. Fortunately, it didn't stop me from having the surgery.

VSG: 03/30/2017 - Dr. Kuri - 446/413/379

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I had a totally irrational thought process going. My biggest concern wasn't for the immediate but for maybe 10-20 years out. The scenario that played through my head was that I had some condition that had a treatment that required my whole stomach to be there. Because I didn't have a complete stomach, I couldn't get the treatment and was told I would die if I didn't get the treatment. No details, just fear. Fortunately, it didn't stop me from having the surgery.

VSG: 03/30/2017 - Dr. Kuri - 446/413/379


How do you feel a month out? Do you feel like you're missing out on anything?


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You know, not really. I know in the back of my head that I can eat anything I want. bread wasn't huge, but pastries (cakes, Cookies, sweets) were. I'm still working through some of those things in my head making conscious choices for better health. I'll have a bite or two at some point, but I'm trying hard to remember that those things are the things that kept me from living a happy life with good health and put me in a place of always wondering if I was going to fit in something, or it if was going to hold me, or if I was going to be the "fat guy" in the room or ridiculed. I focus on my Protein input with some veggies here and there as I can and I move on.

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My irrational fear....in the future a global food crisis....and I won't be able to eat normally at a time when I need every calorie...and then I will die thinking I should have never had that operation....

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I am about midway through the 6 month process for insurance approval, and I have tried to talk myself out of it. In fact, I started the process with a slightly negative outlook on the whole thing. I was like, "Well, I'll do this if I HAVE TO in order to lose weight, but I'd rather diet and exercise." The more research I have done and the more thinking I do, though, the more excited and ready I am to have the surgery. I think it's normal to consider all of your options and look at both the pros and cons. It's a major surgery and commitment, and we need to be mentally ready, too!

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