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scanj05    0

scanj05
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Has anyone went throught the surgery and your family is not supportive. I am getting all the pre op done, in fact I have my psyc eval done tomorrow, :clap2: However I told my younger sister that I am going to be doing this and she is not happy at all and sent me a email on friday telling me this is the wrong thing to do, and it is all in my head and that I should just diet. I have asked her to come to my appts so that she can ask the surgeon any questions she may have she will not go. :angry

My husband is also not approving of the surgery he is supportive because he knows this is what I want to do, but doesn't agree with it at all. I am nervous because this is a huge life chaning situation and I would think my sister out of all people would be suportive. No one else in my family knows.

:help:Crystal:faint:

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blahblahblah    4

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Everyone was gung ho for me to have the surgery, but we conceived our children through IVF and two of my siblings were dead set against it...and not shy in telling me that THEY wouldn't do it...and that we should adopt etc...

Well, I found that I gave them the following reply after EVERY TIME they said it and it worked well. They finally got the hint and stopped giving me their unwanted opinions.

"I appreciate that you feel so strongly about this, but when I mentioned it to you I was not asking for your opinion, I was meerly making conversation and telling you what we are going to do."

It really couldn't get much more direct short of saying...SHUT THE HECK UP>>>>WHO ASKED YOUR OPINION???

Take care and best of luck.

Rain

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Crystal.

Oh boy they will changing there minds when you drop a 100lbs or however much you need to drop.

People just dont understand. Best best BEST thing i ever did for my health.

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washinginwa    0

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SCANJ05,

I'm sorry your family isn't behind you. But, remember the choice of lap-band surgery is your!! I think most family member are scared of the up the coming surgery. Also, unless your over weigh or been over weigh I don't think anyone can fully understand our struggles. The pursuit of a health weight has to come from within.

I'm very happy with the band.

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Gone4Now    4

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I think I posted this before, but I've been fat since I was 10. If I could have done it just by dieting, I would have already. I needed the help, something to get me going.

If your sister won't go and won't learn about the surgery, then I think that's too sad for her. Is she overweight, too? Is it jealousy? Or is she thin, and doesn't understand about being overweight?

As always, in the end, you have to do what's best for you. No one else can make the decision for you, and they shouldn't think that they can.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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