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Hey ya'll,

This is my first post on here. I hope I can get some insight, encouragement, motivation, something... I was sleeved last week. I wasn't super super big to begin with. My weight on surgery date was 195. I have been healing perfectly fine. Maybe too fine. I felt really hungry the first few days which was discouraging and the last couple of days I'm not so hungry but I am craving everything. I'm miserable. All I want to do is eat. All I think about is food. I think about cheating all the time but I know I can't. I feel like I made a big mistake. I feel like I'm missing out on so much. I'm getting in my liquids fine , I'm getting in my Proteins fine and was already started on soft proteins and getting those in fine too. I feel like this is just too easy. I've lost 5 pounds this week. But I'm afraid that I'm just not going to move very quickly in weight loss. And I wonder if all of this was worth it. I find it very difficult to completely be deprived of things that I love. Yes I love food. That's why I am fat. I've been feeling really down, has anybody else out there started at a lower BMI? How was the process? What do you all do when you want to eat things so bad and you can't? How do you get food out of the brain? Help

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I was sleeved last Monday also and also a low BMIer. The very reason I started this journey using VSG as a tool was because I did not have self control. I could not control my portions at all. Now maybe we decided to do something about it before things got way out of hand. I know I decided when I had already lost a few pounds on my own and AGAIN started gaining it back. But the decision has been made and you have this tiny tummy to use to your advantage.

Think hard about what you've said. Missing out on food, all I think about is food... that is what brought us here. Someday you will be able to occasionally enjoy the foods you love and in lesser quantities but right now that would hurt you. Your tummy is still healing. Regrets at this point are only damaging you because you can't go back.

Have you had any success? Focus on those and not what you are "temporarily" missing out on.

Message me if you want to talk.

Take care.

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You are SO right. So so so right. This is all mental. It feels like warfare inside my brain. I'm battling it out and I don't want to give up. I know better.
Thank you so much. Youre message is getting me through this evening. Taking it one step at a time.

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Keep fighting! Take in your liquids and that should keep you full, but you will have to battle the head hunger. Once you start seeing and feeling how healthy you are becoming the easier it will be!
I for one do not want my weight to come off too quickly. I want my body and brain to have time to adjust to the changes. The weight will go, I mean hey ...... you and I can only hold 4 oz of anything in our stomach......it will go! Just stay focused on your goal. Weigh your food, get your Protein, drink your liquids, take your Vitamins and exercise your way to that healthy, happy person you deserve to be! Oh wait what is your screen name....pathtosuccess.....I think you are already on your way.

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I have not been sleeved yet, but am working towards it.
What you said in your post sounds like addiction to me.
I am a recovering alcoholic and also a food addict.
I am afraid I will have the same thoughts you are having.
You could try Over-Eaters Anonymous?
This post is not meant to be offensive by any means, so please do not take it as such.

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Walter... i am not offended at all. I agree with you. It's a complete mental thing, almost like an obsession. Today I got on the scale 1 week post open and saw my 10 lb loss and felt so good. I could tell my loss in the mirror. It set me to a different mental place this morning. I think this will help me. It's going to be hard. We are all overweight because we don't have control. But with time and persistence taking it one day at a time and embracing each positive step, I believe in myself and I know that I can do this. I will fight this mental food addiction and will be healthy and feel great. And I believe you will too. I think it is a struggle for a lot of people at first. There's a reason why we got to the place where we were. But I also believe that with determination and faith, we will succeed.

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I have not been sleeved yet, but am working towards it.
What you said in your post sounds like addiction to me.
I am a recovering alcoholic and also a food addict.
I am afraid I will have the same thoughts you are having.
You could try Over-Eaters Anonymous?
This post is not meant to be offensive by any means, so please do not take it as such.

Walter... i am not offended at all. I agree with you. It's a complete mental thing, almost like an obsession. Today I got on the scale 1 week post open and saw my 10 lb loss and felt so good. I could tell my loss in the mirror. It set me to a different mental place this morning. I think this will help me. It's going to be hard. We are all overweight because we don't have control. But with time and persistence taking it one day at a time and embracing each positive step, I believe in myself and I know that I can do this. I will fight this mental food addiction and will be healthy and feel great. And I believe you will too. I think it is a struggle for a lot of people at first. There's a reason why we got to the place where we were. But I also believe that with determination and faith, we will succeed.

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I know it can be tough. Look at it this way - it's like being an alcoholic and having to face up that you can't go hang out in bars anymore. Yes, food is something comforting and what we are used to, but it's also the root of why we had to consider having surgery to help fight the battle. The other day I had a realization that realistically I'll never go to an all you can eat buffet again. it would be a complete waste. Does it make me a little sad? Sure, but when you sit back and think that sort of thing is why we have such an obesity problem in this country to begin with.

As to foods that I really miss I know most I'll be able to enjoy some again in due time. For me I obsessed over quantity rather than quality. Binge eating was my biggest battle and needed something to combat it, so that was my reason for choosing surgery.

It isn't uncommon to second guess things, especially during this period where we are so limited on what we can have. Way I look at it is that I've punished my body for a good 35 years so a few weeks of penance on my part is going to be worth it in the end!

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I had a moment of depression after surgery when I realized I wasn't going to find pleasure in food anymore.. That I can't eat the foods I love like I use to so now I really don't care to have them.. Then managed to get my head wrapped around the fact that food is fuel for my body and now that's how I look at it.. Its a mind thing.. Glad to see you're doing better with it.. Keep up the great job

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I had my sleeved 3days ago handling pretty good only problem is I can't sleep on my bed I am sleeping in recliner since Monday, anyone else experience that, also how soon one can drive aft surgery

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