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I have to bring my husband and my children. Age 12 and 14 to my surgery. I feel sad that they have to see this all. Feel embarrassed and weak that I am having this done. I feel like they are going to think there's a cure for being severely overweight and eating awful and being lazy. How do you cope with this? I want my kids to be healthy. Not just see a way out once it happens. They are both chubby. Specially my daughter :-(((((

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Model appropriate behavior. Let them see how hard mom works at being healthy. They won't think this is easy--no one who understands what we go through can.

Make balanced lunches for everyone. Eat together as a family. Teach them that there are sometimes foods and anytime foods, but make sure your healthy foods are tasty. Make them spaghetti, but use turkey meatballs and legume Pasta. Make them chicken wings, but bake them and buy skinless. Make them pb&j sandwiches with whole grain bread, PB2, and sugar- free jelly.

Exercise together. My kids and I do Tae Kwon Do together. There are several families at the gym who do the same, and they are not all slim by any means. Find something you can all do: martial arts, swimming, skating. But stick to it.

Your kids won't think worse of you. But you do need to teach them how not to end up like us.

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I have to bring my husband and my children. Age 12 and 14 to my surgery. I feel sad that they have to see this all. Feel embarrassed and weak that I am having this done. I feel like they are going to think there's a cure for being severely overweight and eating awful and being lazy. How do you cope with this? I want my kids to be healthy. Not just see a way out once it happens. They are both chubby. Specially my daughter :-(((((


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You have no reason to be embarrassed. We are doing this for our children. I keep telling myself that I have to succeed. I can't fail because of my daughter. She is the main reason I'm having bypass. She deserves a mother that can actively participate in her life and not sit on the sidelines. I want to teach her a healthy lifestyle. This surgery is the only way I can do that. Your children will be so proud and happy for the new you.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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